me and my ex dated for about 4 months.he called me every single day. he would tell me how beautiful i am and how he was really interested in me. the first time we hung out we did sleep together and that was 100% initiated by me. after we hung out he texted me telling me he missed me and how i have a smile that brightens up his day. he told me he told his friend how amazing i was. he was always talking about future plans and how he was excited about what this is/what it’s going to be. he was having trouble finding a job and i would give him advice and he said “you know when your day couldn’t get any worse and then someone comes along and makes everything better..and you just wanna give them the world? that’s you everyday..i really really like you” he asked to take me out on dates, and he asked me to be his girlfriend at the end of june. i met his family, he met mine.
in the middle of july, he enlisted in the military. he broke up with me at the end of august because he was supposed to be leaving for boot camp in january. he would call me everyday since the break up, told me he missed me, asked me on a date..and i said yes. we decided to exclusively date but he didn’t want the title because he wanted to take things slowly. he said “i’m the problem, trust me i would never lead you on..i’m afraid of falling in love and getting hurt” he was in a bad 5 year relationship whre his ex cheated on him. i was eating dinner over his house with his family again.
one week he was distant because he was focusing on getting this job so he didn’t have to join the army. He had excuses to why we couldn’t hang out. I brought him a coffee one day and he said it was weird and made him feel uneasy. He told me that’s bf gf status and that’s not what we are meanwhile he asked me to go on a cruise the week before. He told me he’s not focused on me and him and his feelings changed and he was in a relationship shortly after.
In the beginning of December he reached out to me and he contacts me sometimes but we don’t talk about much. I’m over things and don’t expect anything to come out of what we used to have. Him and his gf broke up about a week ago which I figured would eventually happen. For my own closure I was wondering if you could answer some questions? Thanks so much April. P.s. he is no longer joining the army because he got the job he was focused on.
1. Did he have feelings for me or was he using me? How do you know? Please explain
2. Clearly feelings changed, any idea why?
3. Maybe did he have strong feelings for me and push me away because he’s afraid of getting hurt?
