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So, this girl and I went together to a ball together. We got along really well and things hit off. We didn’t really do anything serious just made out the next day. She lives about 2 hours away but I am there every weekend. After she left I texted her and I guess I over did the texting over the next couple days. For the first few days we talked allot but after that she stopped being responsive and after trying for a bit I stopped. One of her friends messaged a friend of mine saying that I need to ease up on the messages. She texted me today, saying that she’s going through allot of stresses in her life and its all overwhelming, I hope you can respect my space and I hope we can be friends. She needs to go to counselling about what happened and her feelings. (her ex cheated on her) She says she’s confused and needs to figure things out. I have decided to stop messaging her and wait for her to message me. As well I will not be going back to her area for another 2 weeks. I was wondering if there is any chance of getting another shot, or if I wanted to meet her, how to go about it? I was hoping I could restart those 3 days some how, cause I’d like to give this a shot however, and I guess my talkative personality kinda scared her. Any hope?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

There is hope — but if you give me a little more information, first, I can try and tailor my advice to your situation. For instance, how old are the two of you? How long have you known each other, and how did you meet? Was the ball the first date you had with her? Also, if you know, how long ago did she break up with the ex (husband? boyfriend?) who cheated on her?

Let me know and I’ll respond as soon as you do!

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Both of us are 22. We have known each other for about a month, and we met through a friend. The ball was the first date i had with her. Also, she broke up with her ex-boyfriend about 4 months ago. Before the ball we didn’t really talk, we just knew each other. Also, I was not really interested in anything but spending the 2 days with her, I thought we had a pretty good connection. I’m not really like set on her as I am going out and meeting people, but just felt like there was a better connection with her. I kind of wish I could refresh from Monday. I am also a pretty talkative person. I msg most friends not in my area regularly.

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Does this help?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Thank you — that does help! 🙂 It sounds like you got a couple of clues that you were texting her too much after the first date, and she tried to put you in the friend zone, shortly after that. So two things you can change are your texting and your friend zone status. 😉

Wait until shortly before you go back to her area, and then phone her (don’t text) to ask her out on a real date. Make it very clear that this is a date, not hanging out or anything else that could be misconstrued as a friendly get together. If she agrees to go out with you, then you’ll have your second date. If she doesn’t want to go out with you, you can try again the next time you’re in town, but what you want to avoid doing is to being her friend and texting her.

If she does say no, it may be because she’s just not ready to date, given her recent past, or you’re just not her cup of tea, which happens and isn’t personal or anything to worry about. But don’t befriend her if you want to date her.

I hope that helps! Let me know how things go.

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