[Anonymous]

[size=150]Hi April,

I’ve been interested in a guy (one of my friends) for about 2 years but was not sure whether I do really love him.First we were just friends but 6months back we got more close to each other and I too felt that he loves me too.But I didn want to ask him out until he did, I was trying to give him clues that I’m interested. And one day he asked me whether I love him, because he feels that I do love him.But I didn want to say yes at once so I simply said I don’t know & I asked him the same question and he gave the same answr (i dnt knw).

After few months, we started loosing contact with each other & he was busy with his work. We don’t even meet each other now, but we live in the same town so accidently we used to meet each other. We are in the same club in the church but now he does not even attend for the meetings he says he’s busy with his studies and work.He shows his willingness to attend meetings but yet he doesn’t.

Now I really do understand that i love him and our goals and ambitions do align too.Since he was also interested in me sometime back, I want to be in touch with him again and should really know whether he still loves me? What can I do? how can i get to know whether he still loves me and How can I get things back to normal as how it was early? I really do love him & I want him to know it.

Thanx. Please prompt a good response

Luv Keryne[/size]

[Ask April Masini]

Hi Keryne:

How old are you and how old is he? Has he ever asked you out on a date? I wasn’t clear from your post if the two of you have ever dated.

Please let me know and with this information I’ll give you some advise.

[vinukilove]

Hi April,

Well, I’m 22 years and he is 23years. I’m still doing my higher studies full time. But he’s involved in work + part time studies. So on average he’s busy than me. No we have never dated, and he has never asked me out on a date. But once when we spoke over the phone I remember he asked me whether we should go out for a movie, but I thought he must be just kidding, so I was kind of saying NO. Specially because i didn’t want to go out for a movie as a very first date instead if he asked me out for lunch or dinner probably i would have said Yes. Again twice he asked me whether we could go out for a movie & i replied him yes we all can go (what i meant was with friends). But now I feel i gave the wrong answer. Actually I was not sure whether he was serious or not, because he’s a humorous person and always used to crack jokes.

I want to be in touch with him again and express the way I feel for him, but have the fear of being rejected.As the first and foremost step what can I do?

[Ask April Masini]

You definitely sent him the wrong signals. Men want something to chase after, and when you shot him down because you didn’t like the idea of a movie as a first date 😯 and then by saying you’d go out in a group when he wanted to go out only with you, you didn’t give him something to chase at all. 😳

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[Anonymous]

Can I do something as a quick move to compensate on what I did. I mean any other way of making him feel that I’m ready for a date with him. please i need a quick response…. thanks 😕

[Ask April Masini]

Yes! You can. All the tricks and tips for compensating and getting back on track are in the book, Think & Date Like A Man, that I recommended to you when I wrote you last. You can read it straight through or thumb to the pages that address your particular situation.

The book downloads automatically, so you can get it right away. Here’s the link again: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url].

Read it and let me know what you think.

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[Anonymous]

Can I get this book through Amazon? Is it available in local bookshops? 🙂
I currently locate in Sri Lanka, that’s the issue April

[Ask April Masini]

The best place to get the book is at this link. [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url] Click on it, and then click on the link that says “On Sale Now.” You’ll get information for entering your credit card info and the book will download automatically and right away. You can start reading today.

I hope that helps.

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[Ethan Morales]

It sounds like you and this guy had mutual feelings at one point, but life circumstances work, studies, and decreased communication caused the connection to fade. Right now, the main issue isn’t whether he loves you; it’s that the relationship hasn’t been actively nurtured, so feelings can’t stay strong without attention and effort. People’s priorities shift, and if he hasn’t been making time for the club, meetings, or accidental encounters, it’s possible his focus is elsewhere.

If you want to reconnect, the best approach is honest and direct communication. Reach out in a friendly and non-confrontational way let him know that you value him and your friendship, that you miss spending time together, and that you’re interested in exploring your feelings for each other again. Don’t overwhelm him with pressure about love or commitment; instead, open the door for a conversation and see how he responds. His willingness to engage and reciprocate will reveal a lot about whether he still has feelings for you.

It’s also important to be prepared for any outcome. If he’s not in a place to pursue the relationship, respect that and focus on your own growth and happiness. You can express your feelings, but you cannot control his choices and that’s okay. Relationships need mutual effort, and if that effort isn’t there, it’s better to know sooner rather than later. start small, reach out genuinely, and observe how he responds. If he shows interest and willingness to reconnect, you can gradually rebuild the bond. If not, you’ll have clarity and can move forward without uncertainty.

[Tara]

You’re chasing a man who already checked out. You’re clinging to a version of him from six months ago because it hurts less than admitting he’s no longer interested. He didn’t disappear because he’s “busy.” People make time for what they want. He stopped calling, stopped meeting, stopped showing up, stopped trying. That is his answer. You’re just refusing to accept it.

You keep replaying that moment where he said “I don’t know” like it was some mysterious romantic code. It wasn’t. It was exactly what it sounded like: he wasn’t sure about you, and now he’s even less sure. You think your goals align. He believes his life doesn’t include you right now. You’re stuck in the past; he’s moving forward.

Here’s the part you keep hiding from yourself: if he still loved you, you wouldn’t be hunting for clues. You wouldn’t be deciphering excuses. You wouldn’t be asking strangers how to “get things back to normal.” Because he’d be showing up on his own. He’s not unreachable, he’s uninterested.

You want to know what to do? Stop chasing him. Stop crafting strategies. Stop trying to resurrect a connection he clearly let die. Tell him directly how you feel, once, like an adult with a spine, not like someone begging for crumbs. If he wants you, he’ll step up. If he doesn’t, you walk away with dignity instead of sinking further into wishful thinking.

[Sally]

Two years is a long time to wonder about someone. And it’s sweet that you two had that little almost-moment together but what matters is what he’s doing now. He’s pulled back. He’s busy. He’s not showing up the way he used to. That doesn’t mean he never cared, it just means he isn’t moving toward you right now.

And I know how hard that is when your feelings finally feel clear.

If you want to know where he stands, the only real way is to reach out calmly and just say you’ve been thinking about him. Don’t pour everything out at once just open the door a little and see if he walks through it.

Love shouldn’t feel like guessing every step. Let his response tell you the truth.

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