[eatabagel]

Hi,

I am in 8th grade and there is this girl I like. She gives me a lot of mixed signals. sometimes she will completely ignore me in certain times of the day but other times she will always try to get my attention. Usually in spanish class she will sort of talk to me but not really. in band class she always makes me sit next to her and when someone else takes a seat between us she usually tries to get the other person to move. in band class, she talks to me a lot and we will both stare at each other smiling. whenever i walk past her in like the halls or something we look at each other and i feel like she wants to say something but never does but im not sure. when we text, i always start the conversation and she never keeps the conversation going. about 2 years ago, i texted her over the summer and that is what sparked our friendship. for like a week she texted me the whole day and we had like 500+ texts a day. one day, i went to a small party with a few nerdish people but i went anyways. my best friend also came with me and i was texting this girl. everyone was talking about it because i kept texting her and they were being guys about it. my best friend sent her a text and i dont know what the text was but i knew he had messed everything up. all of a sudden she sends me a text saying that she didnt like me and then she never really texted me again. every once in a while she would send me a text and say y dont you text me anymore n stuff. i remember her saying when i was at the party she asked me if anyone was reading the texts and i said no and she said ok good. im not sure but the reason she might have said what she said is because i didnt exactly keep it private one the people at the party were getting annoying. the people at the party were saying i was probbably going to be dating her when school started again and i just went with it. also now in 8th grade she will randomly write on my leg with her finger in band class and say stuff like i heart u and u are cute. in band class she also pokes me and gets my attention and says hi and i say hi back and thats all she says. i was wondering if there was a better way to respond to that. there is also another guy that she recently has been hanging out with more and more. i know that he likes her but im not sure if she likes him. she will like walk back with him after band class and talk to him more than she will talk to me in spanish. she has walked from band class to our main building before but she doesnt do it often(by the way, our campus is huge, our grade levels go from when you are 3 to senior year). i dont know what she does in other classes because spanish and band are the only classes we share. also, i am a really good baseball player and she knows i am but she has never seen me play before. when i was talking about baseball with a friend, she said that she wanted to come to a game sometime. i dont know if it was just to see if i was good or if she wants to see the game because im there. also, i am not the best dresser if you know what i mean. our school has a dress code and it is pretty strict but you can sort of get around it if you know how to dress. she used to say like a month ago that she wanted to take me clothes shopping but it never really happened. also she seems really comfortable with me when she talks like a few times she told me she went bra shopping and she said they looked good. i didnt really know how to respond to it so i said cool. some says she will ask me do i look cute r something n i say she looks good. all of those conversations happened in band class and that is really the only time she talks to me.

sorry if this is worded badly i kinda just let it all out.
also if i think of anything else ill put in a new reply r something

EDIT: im also kinda scared to ask her out because i feel like if i do and she says no things will get akward between us and everything will be ruined. also i have never had a girlfriend before and i am dont think i look that good or else a lot more girls would converse with me but i know im not super ugly. also this girl is the only girl i really talk to but she is really popular but not like super popular. i sort of talk to other girls but not like over texts n stuff. im also not the most popular kid in my grade but im not like someone that nobody notices. im in the in crowd and im athletic. i am so confused right now and i just need some advice

thanks

[April Masini, your AskApril]

She does like you, and you’re letting your anxiety about rejection stop you from asking her out. This is something you just have to get over. Let me help you a little:

From your post you sound very bright and charming. Clearly she likes you for these reasons and more! Plus, you’re athletic and you’re self aware so you’re probably stylish enough, and the fact that she wants to take you clothes shopping means she wants to see you in different things! 😉

My advice is to ask her out on a date. Invite her to go to a movie or out for pizza or ice cream or to go bowling — or whatever you do in your town. Besides all your other assets, women like men who are confident. By showing her you’re not afraid of possible rejection, you’ll be even more attractive. 🙂

Let me know how things go, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

[eatabagel]

But April what i don’t get is why whenever me and this other guy and her is around each other, she will talk to him more. and also why isn’t she answering my texts all of a sudden?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It sounds like you didn’t ask her out. 😳

The best thing you can do, as I told you last time, is to ask her out on a date. If you don’t, you’re going to continue to to wonder what every little nuance of her behavior means. Instead of whipping yourself into a frenzy of anxiety about her, show her what it is you want — a relationship — and see if she’s interested in the same thing. If she is, you’ll be able to know she likes you enough to spend time alone with you. If she isn’t, then you can move on and stop wondering what every little move she makes, means. 😉

I hope this helps. Please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 😀

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