There is a woman at work who I’ve started to have feelings for. Thing is we are both in relationships. But it’s starting to get me down, and affect my work. I don’t think I’d ever cheat but I’m not happy with the situation. What I really want to know does this girl like me? Sometimes we are at work on our own for long periods and we get on really well although we don’t flirt. We tend to make eye contact and it’s never uncomfortable. In fact when she’s talking in a group but not directly to me she will always look at me for my reaction to what she’s saying. I have caught her looking at me as we’ll. She told a colleague that she thought I had really nice eyes and remembers conversations that we’ve had from months ago. Sometimes when she’s told that we are paired up at work together she smiles or gets out a giggle like she’s excited. She laughs at stuff I say even when it’s not that funny and recently she teases me and might hit me a playful nudge in the shoulder. She never mentions her partner and never asks about mine. On the other hand there is times when she could have spend time with me (or overtime at work) but she’s turned it down. Am I just imagining that she likes me? I serous thinking about moving dept but we just get on so well. I need help please!
What do I do? Should I move dept? I’m not the kind of person who would think about an affair but I can’t stop thinking about her? And I think it’s worse if she might have feelings for me! It’s a bit of a mess.
We are both married with kids. I love my children and she talks a lot about hers. I’m in my thirties and she’s in her forties. I’m really not a creep and would hate to destroy my family. I know there is no possible future in it but I can’t help the way I feel.
You’re clearly interested in dating her. And since you’re married with children, rather than making a mess by having an affair that will create two messes — one with each family, make a clean break to limit the damage. You’ll be single and available and you’ll have this and other opportunities.
