So my boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for 8 months. I felt like it was the best relationship I have ever had, and my parents, friends, family, pretty much everyone loved him and saw how happy I was with him. He treated me exactly the way a girl is supposed to be treated, texting goodmorning and goodnight, being slightly protective but not overly, setting dates to see me, being there for me, etc. We talked about marriage, kids, and family because we are getting up to the age where we should start thinking about it. Recently though, I found out through his computer while he was in the shower that he was skyping this girl in a sexy manner playing truth or dare with clothes and talking about sex. I didn’t know what to feel. He was the perfect boyfriend. I confronted him about it and he became all defensive even saying that may not even be fully cheating, and when I asked him to look me straight in the eye and tell me if anything else happened (asking him twice actually at different times) he said no very firmly. The next day, the girl he cheated on me with actually got my number and PHONED me crying because she felt guilty about everything. She told me from the beginning to the end, how two months ago he slept over at her dorm and she gave him a bj and he slept over, and how she has been sending him pictures of her boobs at his request, and of course the skype call. So it turns out for the past 2 months he has been cheating on me with another girl. Also, when this came out his friends became sympathetic towards me and told me many things about the times where he said he was at home or at his sisters and how they covered for him so he could go have fun (like going hot tubbing or blazing without me knowing). They also leaked how he has been texting other girls in sweet ways and they say it is because of a guy’s ego, to see how many girls he can get.
I have chosen to take a break from him for 2 and a half weeks after I found all of this out yesterday, and he promised during this break he wouldn’t be doing anything that he did when he was cheating on me. The only reason I didn’t fully break up with him is because of the way he treated me the entire relationship without flaw. He treated me like a princess and how I have never been treated before and I’m not sure if any other man could treat me that way for 8 consecutive months without falter like he did (besides the behind the scenes parts).
All his friends and family know that he loves and cares for me deeply, I just don’t know why he couldn’t just come clean and have a conscience. When this break is over, I’m going to confront him about all the new stuff I found out and see what he says and then decide from there whether to give him a second chance based on the sincerity of how he responds.
Do you think this is the right thing to do?
