[nodrog]

my ex broke up with me in the middle of the summer and started seeing another guy. we never stopd sleeping together until sept. we stoped talking for about a month then in oct on my bday she called me and started having sex again.no one knows we started talking again in fact if her family finds out we are talking they will kick her out and disown her. she does keep telling me that at the end of the month we need to stop talking but we never do. we see each other atleast once aweek. i do help her out here and there with thing but she is risking everything to just talk to me. we were best friends before we stared dating but why is she still sleeping with me? is there a chance we will get back together? i know she feels safe with me and can be herself but i know in the back of my head she is playing games. do i be honest with her about what im going through or do i play her game??

[April Masini, your AskApril]

[quote]we were best friends before we stared dating but why is she still sleeping with me?[/quote]

She misses you, so she’s having sex with you. And she’s afraid to be alone, so she keeps coming back to you.

[quote] is there a chance we will get back together? [/quote]

It depends why you broke up and what you both want.

[quote]i know she feels safe with me and can be herself but i know in the back of my head she is playing games. do i be honest with her about what im going through or do i play her game??[/quote]

I’m not sure what you want. You’ve spent a lot of time talking about what she does, but very little about why you’re still sleeping with her after she broke up with you and is dating other men. I don’t really think she’s playing a game because she’s broken up with you and she told you she’s dating another guy — so she knows that she’s told you she doesn’t want to be monogamous with you any more. I think she’s just not wanting to be your girlfriend, but not wanting to be alone.

The real question here is: What do you want? When you answer that, then you can begin to have some clarity in your own life.

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[nodrog]

i want her back. we broke up because i caught her in a few lies. nothing serious really. but she started seeing this guy a week later but she didnt get serious with him until i told her i hooked up with someone else. her family hates me because i lied to them about her drug problem.(didnt tell them about it) i dont know what she wants she tells me she wants to be with him but then sneaks out to be with me. i think the family thing is the biggest thing keeping her from being with me.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re in denial. 😳

Your ex-girlfriend is a drug addict who lies. 😕 She is never going to have a normal relationship as long as those two qualities are part of who she is. Game playing is what addicts do. They use lies to give themselves the advantage in whatever angle they’re playing. This isn’t a good person for you to be dating.

So…. the question then becomes: Why do you want to date someone who has a drug problem and who lies?

You need to look in the mirror and do some honest assessing of who you are and what you want in your life. I hope you’ll decide you want a healthy relationship with someone. This woman isn’t going to give that to you.

I hope that helps. Good luck, and I’m here if you need me.

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