I’ve been talking to an ex-girlfriend of mine nonstop for the last four days. We’ve known each other for seven years, and every time we meet, it feels like we never broke up. She lives in another state, and we haven’t seen each other in three years, so naturally, our conversations have been full of nostalgia, jokes, and that familiar closeness that makes the years apart feel irrelevant.
During one of our conversations, she asked when she could come visit me. I suggested this weekend and even offered to help with travel if she needed it. She seemed receptive and said she needed to check her work schedule and would let me know. Last night, we ended things on that note. But now, it’s 12 noon, and I haven’t heard from her at all. Normally, she’d have been blowing up my phone by now.
I feel this mixture of confusion and anxiety—part of me thinks maybe she’s genuinely busy, but another part worries she’s hesitating or has second thoughts. The fact that she hasn’t responded yet is making me question whether I pushed too quickly or if I misread the signals from our recent conversations. On one hand, I want to give her space to make a decision without pressure; on the other hand, I feel like I’m left in limbo, unsure whether I should reach out or just wait.
This isn’t just about a visit; it’s about understanding where we stand after all these years. Her friend—or even her own hesitation—might be influencing her, and I don’t want to overthink, but I can’t help it. I care about her and the possibility of seeing her, but I also don’t want to appear desperate or overly anxious.
Has anyone been in a similar situation where an ex suddenly hesitated after planning a visit? Should I give her more time and let her reach out, or is it appropriate to send a casual message to check in? How do I handle this without overstepping but still getting some clarity?
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