[sofia_local26]

I have been seeing a guy who works at the local shop for a while we’d smile at each other, say hello, and finally had a proper conversation the other day. It felt easy and friendly; when we parted he said, “See you next time,” and it seemed like we were on the same page. The next time I saw him I asked for his Facebook so we could keep in touch. He handed it over, said, “Sure here you go. Let me know what you do,” and I thanked him, feeling happy and a bit excited.
But the next day he’d deleted me. When I asked him about it at work he shrugged and said, “It’s my girlfriend but don’t worry, see you at work.” That answer left me spinning. He was friendly in person, gave me his FB willingly, then removed me and claimed a girlfriend yet his Facebook profile still says “Single.” I feel confused, a little embarrassed, and honestly a bit hurt. Did I read his friendliness wrong? Was it all just polite? Or is he hiding something ashamed, conflicted, or trying to avoid drama?
I don’t want to make a scene at work or cause awkwardness between us. On the other hand, I also don’t want to pretend I’m fine with being casually misled. I’ve tried to let it slide and act normal when I see him, but the uncertainty nags at me. Is it possible his relationship status on Facebook is out-of-date, or could he be covering for someone? Could he have deleted me by accident and lied because it felt easier? Would it be rude to ask him calmly what’s going on, or should I back off and let him bring it up?
Has anyone experienced something like this friendly in person, but deleted/blocked online with a confusing explanation? How would you handle it without creating workplace awkwardness? Should I ask directly (“I noticed you removed me is everything okay?”), watch his actions only, or move on quietly? I’d appreciate honest, practical advice.

[Sally]

He’s taken, or at least emotionally tied up with someone else. The “girlfriend” comment was his way of shutting it down without a scene. Believe that first answer, not the “single” status. If he wanted to keep talking, he would have. Protect your peace and stop trying to make sense of mixed signals. They’re usually just signs to move on.

[Mia Caldwell]

Yeah, that’s really confusing. It sounds like he liked talking to you, but something made him pull back later. Maybe he really does have a girlfriend, or maybe he just didn’t want things to get messy at work.

For now, keep things simple be polite when you see him but don’t ask about it again. Let him come to you if he wants to explain. You don’t need to chase answers; just stay calm, friendly, and move on if he keeps acting distant.

[PassionSeeker]

This feels like a classic case of mixed signals and possibly someone not being completely upfront. Given that he’s deleted you and then used the “girlfriend” excuse, I’d say he’s not as interested as he initially appeared. You deserve clarity, and if he’s not offering it, you should back off and move on. Don’t ask him directly—just act as if you’re fine and leave the situation behind. If he ever wants to explain, he’ll come to you.

[AskApril Masini]

There’s a very good chance his girlfriend deleted you. He probably mentioned you, and she picked up on what was going on, women usually do.

And let’s be honest, he didn’t mislead you. You read too much into his friendliness and built a story that wasn’t there. Nothing you’ve said shows that he’s romantically interested. If he wanted you, you’d know.

So just back off. Trying to turn this into more than a friendship will only make things awkward.

Keep your friendship. You’ll save your pride and your peace.

[Member]

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