Ok so this may not be completely about relationship advice but I need someone’s advice!!!
So basically I am going to try to make this as short as possible, I have posted on here before about my man having 2 jobs and abt another girl blah blah blah….
So now we have talked about everything and things have been going pretty great, no more texts from girls or weird behavior, and no more 2 jobs.
The thing is he was working 2 jobs and ended up quitting them both at the exact same time, which left only me paying for Rent. Electric and Gas bills, Daycare bills, My car pmts ect… it wasnt so bad at first but now we are going on like 4 months without him having a job and I am completely stressed out about it!!! I can’t afford to pay for everything anymore I have become so stressed out about money and everything that I cannot even think straight anymore. My car is about to re-possesed because I am so far behind on my pmts but I just cant do it and everytime I bring it up to him he gets almost like irritated with me. I know he hates this town, because it is so small and he is ready to move back to Colorado, which we are planning on doing in February, but I think he may be trying to put this job thing off until we move, which he cannot do because I cannot afford everything. I am sooooo sick of being completely broke when I worked my ass off for my check. I have to make sure everyone has everything they need for those 2 weeks plus make sure our rent and stuff is paid, Basically there are too many bills that need paid and my check is not enough to take care of it all. When I try to tell him I am stressed out and stuff he always just tells me everything is going to be ok.
First off he is a felon so it is already hard for him to get a job in this tiny town, but its like he is not even trying?? And I am not sure why but it is really starting to bother me, the last thing I want to fight about is him getting a job!! But 4 people have offered him a job in the last month and all he has to do is fill out the applications, but he hasnt filled out a single one of them!! Which IRRITATES me!!! Like for example: I went home for lunch today and I get there and him and our roommate (we rented the basment out to him, he stayed home sick today) are sitting there watching tv and drinking already!!!! I became a smart ass and said “Drinking already?” “Aren’t you going to take those applications in today?” and he replied “Jeeze babe, get off my ass about the shit already, you ask me every 5 seconds” and that was it, end of conversation period!!!!
So I guess my question is how can I talk to him about this without causing a fight or argument? It shouldnt be a subject like this that causes a fight but it does and I am not sure why? I mean why do you think he gets so irritated when I ask him? Why do you think he wont apply himself and get a job so that I am not trying to pay for everything??
I just can’t do it!
