So I have preivously posted on here about my man talkin to another girl and having 2 jobs and blah blah blah, this may not exactly be for relationship advice, but it is about my relationship!!
So basically we have pretty much talked and came to terms with everything and we are doing wonderful, He ended up quitting his job at the convienence store because he made more money at the other job. But the thing is, when he quit that job he also quit the other job he was making more money at. So then he was was left without a job period. And it wasn’t so bad at first but now we are going on like 3 or 4 months with him not having a job and it is really starting to bother me. The thing is, first off he is a felon and it has been 6 years already so it is already hard for him to get a job around here in this small little town, and second off we are planning on moving to Colorado in February, which we have been talking about for a long time. So I think he may be trying to put it off until then because he hates this small town!! It seems like a touchy subject with him, everytime I bring up the whole job thing he gets like, not mad, but almost like irritated with me and is always saying he will, or sometimes he will say that he has no initiative to get a job in this small a** town. And basically that is the end of the conversation. Period.
But it is really starting to get to me, I mean my check only pays for so much and I am left with the responsibility of paying rent, gas and electric bills, my car payment (which they are threatening to re-posses),daycare bills… I mean EVERYTHING! We have 2 small children, one in diapers and I honestly cannot afford to do it all and pay for everything! I am surprised I have made it this far with only my income. I am getting to the point to where I am completely stressed out about everything. I am worried about everything and it is constantly making me be in a bad mood.And he never wants to talk about it, money issues, I dont know how to express this to him without making him feel uncomfortable or without making him irritated!! But he needs to get a job. He has been offered two if he would just take the applications in!!!! Which is what he was supposed to do today!! But when I got home for lunch him and our rooomate ( we rented out our basement to him) are sitting there watching tv and already drinking!!!! All I said was ” drinking already? Aren’t you going to take that application in today?” and he replies “Jeeze babe, get off my ass about it already, you tell me every 5 seconds.” And there you go, that is how he replies everytime!!!
I just want to be able to go out and buy my children what they need and be able to put gas in my car to get to and from work everyday. I want to be able to go layway things for Christmas and I want to catch up on all of the bills we are behind on!!! How do I make him understand that without pissing him off?? I just can’t do it all, working all of the time, cleaning the house, taking care of the kids, and being stressed about money is becoming way to much for me to handle!! I just want him to understand that I cannot DO IT ALL!!!
