[drew078]

I need to get my life back together. My school work is suffering because i am constantly thinking about the girl I like. I know it might sound premature considering I have only liked her for 4 months, but I think I am in love with her. Every second of every day she is all I think about. The fact that I have such feelings for her clouds my priorities and warps them so that so that she is the only thing that matters. I know that school is important and speaking to my friends is also extremely important, but I am unable to think about anything but her. I cannot focus on any task because I am only thinking about her. I am not sure why, but I feel as if she frankly is occupying my life.We go to school together and are in the same grade (I am a high school senior). We hang out during most free periods and text eachother non-stop literally all day every single day. We are exclusive and are evidently on good terms. We usually see each other once each weekend. We will go to some senior party and then go back to my house and see a movie. (usually entails cuddling, hooking up, and taking off our clothes) I really care about this girl and have a strong desire to see her more than I do, but it is not feasible. All I can think about is her and my priorities are getting out of whack. For example, I like skiing and my best friend invited me to his house in Vermont for the weekend to go skiing. Typically this is something that I would jump at, but have a pit in my stomach because I know I will miss out on seeing this girl this weekend. I can’t bear the idea of not seeing her this saturday. I didnt see her this past weekend because I was away for Martin Luther King weekend. I told her about it and she said “go have a good time” its not a big deal. However, for some reason it is for me. I am wholly preoccupied and cannot get my mind off her. Can someone help me find a way to put her into perspective and help me find a strategy that enables me to live my life the way I did before. I really care about this girl and she can make me so happy, but I feel as if she is crippling my life because I am constantly thinking about her and wanting to be with her. I cannot get her off my mind.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Anxiety comes from uncertainty, so if you have a date with her set up in the future, then you can relax a little, knowing that you’ll see her on Saturday, or, say, Wednesday after school. Not knowing when you’ll see her again is probably making you more anxious. Eventually, you can have a regular date night and set a routine that suits you both — whether it’s doing things with friends one day a week, and together on a date one night a week, and a homework date at the library one day a week. You can be creative scheduling your time together, and I think that you’ll feel less anxious if you do this. 😉

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