Hi April,
I have been dating a girl for a little over a month now. Things have been going well with her and we recently have been seeing each other 2-3 times a week. She lives a little ways away from me, but often she would come to where I lived to spend time with me. We also have been in constant contact with texting. We are not at the boyfriend/girlfriend level of a relationship as we are both still learning about each other. She’s a bit of an introvert and told me that she’s a commitophobe. I spoke to her a bit about the possibility of progressing dating into a boyfriend/girlfriend level and she asked that we take things slow since she does like me, but she wants to make sure she does and is fully ready for a relationship.
She is currently in an accelerated grad school program where she is very busy with homework and working as part of her schooling. When we first agreed to start dating she warned me that she was busy and there would be times where she would go out of contact, maybe even for a couple weeks. She told me that she didn’t want my feelings to be hurt if she did lose contact for a bit.
Last night she warned me that things were very overwhelming for her and that she may lose contact. All I could think to tell her was that I understand and that I care for her and am here for her. I told her that I respect whatever space she needs right now. Since then I have not texted her or heard anything from her.
I really care about this girl and want things to work out with her. I know I need to respect her space. My question is, how do I go about giving her the space she needs without overly distancing myself and completely losing contact with her? I’d appreciate any advice on how to handle this.
