[Anonymous]

I met this really great guy. We hit it off instantly. We have so much in common and great chemistry. We’ve been seeing each other most days. He confided in me that he’s never met someone that he’d hit off so well, had so much on common with and felt so stongly for so fast. He said he also knew the way he was and that he was probably going to back off some because he’s scared but he said to please bear with him while he gets through it because he’s not going anywhere. Well he started to back off…except he’s backed off to the point I’m getting the impression he’s just not interested anymore. We were finally intimate and then a few days later we were supposed to get together (he asked me out) and he had to work late so he cancelled. Then on the next day he contacted me and said can we do something over the weekend instead he’s exhaused from work (we didn’t even have plans that night). I wasn’t pressuring him to meet up. I said sure and I was looking forward to seeing him I missed him. I hadn’t seen him in 5 days and we hadn’t gone that long without seeking each other before. I didn’t think that was out of line or over the top. He didn’t respond to that. He also never contacted me over the weekend to get together. Everything was okay the last time I saw him, throughout the week and as far as I could tell the last time I talked to him as well. Do you think this is him being scared or he’s just not interested anymore? He used to be attentive and if we had plans and couldn’t make it or had to change them he’d let me know. Thank you!!

[Ask April Masini]

I’m not sure how long you’ve been dating him, but as a rule of thumb, if it walks like a duck and it quacks like a duck….it’s a duck! This guy is acting like he’s not interested in you, so your best bet is to accept that he’s not interested in you. Don’t put all your eggs in this basket, and continue to look elsewhere for Mr. Right. If he wants you, he knows how to reach you — but if he doesn’t step up his game, you’re going to be taken, by someone else.

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