[priom]

hi

I am Priom from India, just googled for relationship advice and i landed in ur site. glad i found it.

I am 25yrs old working woman. I was dating a guy 4 years back and due to his “i don’t care attitude” I broke up with him but I still loved him and didn’t move on. He went to UK and then came back after 4 yrs and proposed to me again. I said we have already failed once so no need to start over it again. He still convinced me.
my problems with him: we live in same city but still..
1. He doesn’t text me at all or he texts me once or twice in a day that too not regularly.
2. I don’t know what he is up to the whole time.
3. I know he is busy in office but still he doesn’t call me at all.
4. He lies to me but when I confront him he says he loves me n such lies are not a big issue.
5. I have told him that I am not happy n I want more communication from him and I miss him. I have told him 4-5times by crying and by anger. No change at all. He doesn’t even convince me at that point of time and does nothing.he just says that I am pissed and angry n that’s why I m talking like this. He doesn’t understand how I feel..
6. If I say I want to break up then he starts shouting at me saying I m selfish n its always my way.
7. He says he is a face to face person and he doesn’t like texting or calling. Unfortunately my office hours are so stringent that I am free only on sunday and he sleeps all of sunday. Since we meet just once or twice a month I feel texting and calling is a better way to be in touch. But he doesn’t care at all.

I am all in tears everyday and I am caught in this web. He wants to marry me but I don’t. I can’t live happily with him.I have tried not to be in touch for weeks or even breaking up. he comes back after a week or so and says after marriage this texting n callin issue won’t be there cos we will be living together. But for me..when he can’t put some efforts now then how will he do it in future… I am damn frustrated.. I keep thinking about him all the time n he shows no sign of existence most of the time.

Please help me.. I don’t want to work on this relationship cos he is not ready to change his ways. I am totally shattered n I need a break. How do I convince him that I want to break up with him? He gets mad at me when I say this..

please help me out april
priom

[April Masini, your AskApril]

[quote]Please help me.. I don’t want to work on this relationship cos he is not ready to change his ways. I am totally shattered n I need a break. How do I convince him that I want to break up with him? He gets mad at me when I say this..[/quote]

If you really want to break up with him, here’s what you do:

1. Stop taking his calls. Get caller ID if you don’t already have it, and don’t pick up his calls. If he persists, block his calls — your phone company can help you with this.

2. Don’t take his e-mails or texts. Same deal as with the phone. Block his e-mails and his texts. The delete button on your computer probably works. Use it. 😉

3. Don’t accept visits from him. Don’t come to the door. If you do happen to answer and it’s him, close it. If he continues to show up, the police will help him understand he’s not welcome. They’re usually very nice and polite.

[i]That should convince him [/i]very well that you want to break up with him. If he gets mad, he gets mad — you can’t control his feelings, nor should you. Everyone is entitled to their own feelings and the opportunity to temper feelings and behavior. 😉

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

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