[sarah_momlife]

I have been with my husband since we were 18, married for three years, and we have a. Our marriage never had major fights, but two weeks ago, he left me. He said he needed his freedom, that there was no passion in our relationship, and that he felt trapped like he was in a jail cell. He has recently lost a lot of weight, and people notice him more, maybe it went to his head.
Even though he left, he comes to see our son twice a week and calls almost every day. He wants to stay on the phone to discuss his plans to rent an apartment and live independently. When I ask if he wants to get back together, he says he doesn’t know. When I push, he says, “Well, if you need an answer now, then no, I don’t want to.” Sometimes he sounds angry, saying things like, “When I was a good man, you didn’t appreciate me, now it’s too late. I’ll provide for my son, but I can’t get back with you.”
My mom thinks that if he loved me, he wouldn’t let me suffer and cry like this. His mother thinks I should try going out with him to remind him what he once loved about me. I don’t know what to do—I’ve never been with anyone else, and I feel completely hurt. Over the past six months, he rarely spent time with me, was impatient, said mean things like, “Life with you is boring, I don’t love you the same way anymore,” and our sex life suffered—he says it was never awesome, just okay, and I always had to initiate. He also struggles with our son crying and never enjoyed family activities.
I feel lost, torn between my love for him, heartbreak, and trying to protect myself emotionally. I want to understand whether our marriage can be saved, or if it’s truly over. I also feel unsure how to balance co-parenting while keeping my emotional well-being intact.
Has anyone gone through something similar? How do I know if someone has truly checked out or if there’s still hope? How do I protect myself while navigating this complicated situation with my husband and our child?

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