[Anonymous]

Hello..
My ex boyfriend and I went in the same high school. During that time we were good friends. I always felt something more for him but I was scared to tell him. When we finished high school, I started University and moved to other town.
After more than a year we met again and he told me that he likes me and asked me to be his girlfiend. I accepted. But the things were not so good as I thought to be. We could not see each other so often (I am coming home once or twice in a month). When we were together everything was great, but when we were far from each other, he was a different person. He never called me or text me. I didn’t mind to call him, but he was always uninterested and cold. I tried several times to talk with him about that. Every time he said that he is that kind of guy, that he does not like to call or text anybody, but that he does care about me and likes me. The last two times before the breakup, he even did not want to go out and see me when I came. That was too much and I broke up with him.
After more that a month, we met again. He said that it was not his fault, that we are different, that he likes me but was with me only because he was sure that I will not cheat on him, that he never fall in love for real. Despite all, he wanted to make a deal. He said that he do not want to start a relationship again so fast, that we should wait. In few months he will move in the town where I am studying so we will be able to see each other every day. In the meantime he said that he will not be with any other girl except me. When we met, that we will be together, but that we don’t call each other so often. I accepted. It’s been more that 15 days since I called him last time. He still didn’t call me back. He knows that I am at home, but he never calls me to go out. I am so tired and I dont know what to think and what to do with him.
Oh yes, and one good friend of his (he is also my good friend) told me (in confidence) that he thinks that he loves me because after we broke up he told him that he would like to see me, that it would be good that I am there…

[April Masini, your AskApril]

He’s made it clear that he’s not someone who calls or texts. This doesn’t seem to work for you. 😳 He’s right when he says that the two of you are different in this way. But there’s [i]more[/i] pressure at hand because in addition to this difference, you live in different towns. This makes communication even more difficult. Long distance relationships aren’t for everyone, and when you’ve got someone who doesn’t communicate long distance, it’s pretty much impossible to do.

Although you went to high school together, it doesn’t sound like you’ve dated very long, and it’s premature for him to move to your town to be with you before the two of you have enough of a relationship basis for a commitment.

My advice is to play the field and not commit to this one guy. The long distance isn’t going to work for you coupled with his communication needs not meshing with yours.

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go, and follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter — and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 😀

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