[Anonymous]

my boyfriend and i have been dating going on 3 years. He transferred colleges about a year ago. we have had many ups and downs and mainly from him transferring. we lived together for 2 years before. i felt abandoned when he choose to leave me. he said it was his dream to graduate from this certain school so i moved closer to another school after a semester to make the commute better. recently he got a job and i could only see him two days a month. i started to try and de attach myself so i didnt miss him so much. one of my guy friends told me he had feelings for me and i said i could hang out bc i was dating someone. it started making me think though maybe it would be easier to date someone here. because he still has another two years. i was honest woth my bf and told him how i was feeling and suggested maybe he moved here and we could live together. especially bc it would help finiancially if we could split cost. he said angrily im not going to give up my dreams for your needs! i was very hurt by that and he also said i love you but im not in love with you. the next day we talked and i begged for him to not leave that i was being stupid and he said i just think you dont know what you want and i said okay well will this make us better is this something we can live with for the rest of our lives not being together? and he said i dont know and he suggested we think things over for a while that he wasnt saying no though. i thought about it for a couple of weeks with no contact and decided to just end it and havent heard from him since, everyone says i am better off but i do care about him the long distance is just too hard and especially for tht long we are 24 and i would like to of been able to take the next step but seems like he just doesnt see me that way.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m sorry you’re heartbroken and in pain. 🙁 That said, you’ll be in much worse shape if you stay with a man who doesn’t want you! 😳 He’s made it crystal clear that he’s not going to sacrifice or compromise for his relationship with you, and you should take his message to heart. Pulling a band aid off quickly hurts a lot, but the wound gets to heal and you’ll be good as new in time.

Read Think & Date Like A Man, so you don’t run into this kind of relationship where the guy isn’t into you, again! 😳 Here’s the link: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. It’s going to make you feel a lot better about yourself and your future prospects — I promise.

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