[countrymusicgirl]

Okay, so a couple weeks ago, this guy I work with told one of my best friends that he kinda liked me and was wondering if I was single. My friend told him that I am single and he apparently told her that he would ask me out. A week after that, I saw him at a friend’s birthday party and we basically talked the whole time. He then said that he’s working evenings all weekend but he’d love to hang out with me during the day, and I said yes and told him to let me know what he wants to do.
Because we work together, I saw him like every morning after that. We would even spend hours together in our work cafeteria just talking, and every day before we left I would always say “hey let me know what you want to do this weekend” and he’d always say “yeah, don’t worry, I’ll hit you up!”
Well, the weekend’s passed and I never got a single text from him about our date. Did he forget he asked me out?!?! I mean, he was the one who showed interest, not me! I’m just so confused, why is he being so weird?

[iamaniceguy]

I was in a relationship for 3 yrs. A few mos. ago, my girlfriend wanted to take a break, and we did. She said that she didnt know what she wanted anymore, she wanted to experience college without me for a while, and that she will be going to grad school in another state in a year. We took time off, but we still talked and hung out. During the time off, however, I couldnt get over her, and I know i still loved her dearly. I was constantly in my head trying to figure things out. There were days i couldnt sleep or eat. About a week ago we had a couple really good talk and figured alot out. During the conversation, she told me that she still loves me and that she wants to get back together with me. I was really happy, because thats what I want(i think). We have been getting closer. However, she has been talking to this older guy and wants to get with him”for the story”. They’ve made out before, but I know she wants to have sex with him. I know that she doesnt want a relationship with him or anything, she just wants to experience sex with someone else, because we have only had sex with each other. She told me that im free to do stuff with others as well, but I love her and dont want to do that. This whole thing is mentally twisting me up, because I dont know what to do. Do i get over that she will have sex with this guy and we get back together? Do I not get back with her? Although we arent together, it would still make me feel really bad that she would have sex with him(like cheating). I love her so much, losing her would make me feel like im losing a part of myself.

[Jochris]

I have been with my boyfriend for nearly two years now. We recently even moved in after dating for about a year. It was all great in the start and only recently when he moved jobs he starting been very short tempered and we would have arguments every night and he would be so tired and stressed so he would say lets talk some other time. Then recently he switched jobs again and moved to another city so now we see each other only on the weekends but he’s been very sketchy lately he hides his phone and deletes messages that he says were for his sister. Regardless he said I was always causing trouble and whenever I checked his phone I would find something to upset myself and he just doesn’t have time for that anymore. Again recently I caught him talking to some lady he claims was way older than him and that he only called her to ask her advice about me. I told him I don’t want him talking to her anymore and he said he wouldn’t and deleted her number. Then I checked his emails and I found that in his sent folder he inquired about a private party and the messages were back and forth with some person and he confirmed he would attend the party and the person said bring your own condoms and booze and when I questioned him about this he just denied it completely by saying it was personalized spam. I don’t even know if I should believe him or my gutt feeling that something is definately not right here. Then just a week ago he said he wants space and that he doesn’t want to be obligated to reply and call me at every hour cause of my suspicions.

thank you 🙂

[someone0828]

Hi april, my boyfriend got mad at me because i told him that I do not want to put bangs as he wants to. then, He texted me to no to see each other anymore and delete his number. What am i going to do? hope you can help me thank you.

[davidiii97]

Ok so I have liked this one girl for a long time. I took her to prom two years in a row, told her I liked her, took her out on “dates.” But most of these things were only considered terms of “friendship.” Looking back on it I basically lead myself on by thinking we could have been something and I should have listened to the numerous amount of people who told me from the start she didn’t like me like that. But now once prom ended this year she basically stopped talking to me. I moved on. I am not by any means mad at her and understand that we are, and always have been just friends. I am actually kind of thankful, for without hanging out with her I would have never been as close to her friend. Every time she, her friends, and I went out I kind of felt detached from the first girl and connected with her one friend. She recently moved to Florida for college just as I am, to which she repeatedly told me that we’re hanging out when we’re both down there which I plan on. We have been snap chatting a lot recently and she seems kinda interested in me and we both have a lot in common. I guess my main question is how do I allow her to know that me and her friend were always just friends so that the new girl can be comfortable with going out with me. Should I text the girl that I was only friends with and confirm that we we always just friends? I also don’t want anyone thinking I like this her friend to make her jealous because that is not it at all. Please helpThanks 🙂

[AskApril Masini]

Interesting questions!!

[Ethan Morales]

You first met her 10 years ago when she was very young (13), and the last time you really connected was years later. That’s a lot of time to pass without forming a solid, adult relationship. She lives 5–6 hours away, which makes a real, consistent relationship logistically very difficult. Her abrupt behavior cutting off conversations, only occasionally calling suggests she’s not heavily invested. Birthday calls are polite gestures, not necessarily signals of romantic interest. Right now, she’s not fully available emotionally or physically for the kind of relationship you’re imagining.

You’ve held onto this idea of her for a decade, creating a “fantasy version” of her in your mind. This is more about what she represents to you the girl you’ve imagined spending your life with than who she actually is now.

The only way to know if there’s any chance is to ask her out formally as an adult, in person, if you’re willing to make the drive. Keep it low-pressure: a casual dinner or coffee to see if there’s real chemistry now. Be prepared for her to say no, she may not feel the same way, and that’s reality.

Focus on dating women in your area who are actually available and interested. You can still cherish your memories and admiration for this girl, but your energy will be better spent on someone who can realistically reciprocate your feelings.

Don’t chase a decade-long fantasy at the expense of your own happiness and present opportunities. If she’s truly interested, she’ll make space for it. If not, forcing it will likely hurt both of you.

There’s a tiny chance she could be interested if you approach her directly, but realistically, it’s unlikely given distance, past patterns, and her behavior. The healthiest move is to test the waters once with a low-pressure meeting and then let your focus shift to relationships that are actually possible and fulfilling.

[Val Unfiltered💋]

babe… ten years is a long time to hold on to a “maybe.” 💔 she’s not the same girl you fell for, and you’re not the same guy either. if she wanted to rebuild something, she’d show up, not vanish mid-call. stop trying to restart an old chapter that ended years ago. people avoid what doesn’t feel right. let her go, and open space for someone who actually picks up the phone and your heart. ✨

[Marcus king]

It sounds like she still cares enough to reach out sometimes, but her mixed signals cutting conversations short yet calling on birthdays or for small chats show she’s cautious or unsure. That could be from past heartbreak, life circumstances, or uncertainty about you after so many years.

The best way to start fresh is low pressure, consistent, and lighthearted communication. Focus on catching up, sharing stories, and showing who you are now, without pushing for a relationship immediately. Let her respond at her pace.

If she continues to pull away consistently or shuts down meaningful conversation, that’s a sign she may not be ready or interested in more. But if she warms up and engages over time, you can gradually rebuild closeness and see where it goes.

It’s about patience, respect, and showing her the updated version of you, not forcing a past connection.

[PassionSeeker]

It sounds like you’ve been holding on to the idea of this girl for a long time, but what you’re describing feels more like nostalgia than a real, mutual connection. She reaches out occasionally, but not in a way that shows genuine interest or effort just enough to keep the door slightly open. That’s not fair to you.

If you want clarity, stop guessing and be direct. Ask her what she truly wants. If she can’t give you a clear answer or keeps avoiding depth, that’s your answer she’s not ready or not interested.

You deserve someone who shows up for you now, not someone who pops in and out of your life because it’s convenient or familiar. Focus on the woman who is consistent, who makes you feel appreciated and present not confused or stuck in the past.

Sometimes, holding on to what was keeps you from finding what could be. Let go with kindness, but keep your heart open to new possibilities.

[Tara]

Cut the cord cleanly. If she returns, she returns to a version of you that no longer waits. And if she doesn’t, good. You don’t need another round of emotional charity work.
You’re still talking like she’s a puzzle when she’s already filed the exit paperwork. Her silence is the answer, her distance is the closure, and your hope is the only thing keeping this dead thing on life support.

She didn’t drift. She disengaged. That’s a choice. And every time you chase after her cold little breadcrumbs, you reinforce exactly why she lost interest: you made it too easy for her to take you for granted.

Let’s get real. You’re not in love with her. You’re in love with the story you built around her. You’re obsessed with the unfinished sentence. People like you latch onto potential because it feels safer than facing the fact that the person standing in front of you never matched the fantasy in your head.

And the plan you laid out? Good. But don’t kid yourself. This isn’t about “winning her back” through silence. This is about detoxing from someone who stopped investing long before you even noticed. You’re not proving anything to her. You’re proving to yourself that you still have a spine.

Stop contacting her. Stop watching her online. Stop building your day around the possibility she might suddenly rediscover your value. She won’t. And even if she does, it’ll be out of boredom, not revelation.
Rebuild your life because you need momentum, not memories. People who want to be in your life don’t need reminders. They show up without being summoned.

[Sally]

I hear the hope in your words, but I also hear how one-sided this has started to feel for you. Ten years is a long time to hold someone in your head. People change a lot in that time, and sometimes the version of them we miss isn’t who they are anymore.

If she’s cutting conversations short but still calling on birthdays, that usually means she cares in a friendly, polite way… not in the way you’re hoping for. When someone wants you back, they don’t make you guess. They show up.

You can try talking to her like it’s brand new, but only if you’re okay with the answer going either way. Don’t chase her. Don’t push. Just be real and see how she responds.

If she keeps pulling away, that’s your answer. And I know it hurts, but that’s better than hanging on to a maybe forever.

[Natalie Noah]

I see a pattern: your heart is attached to someone from the past, but the person you’ve built this fantasy around is essentially unavailable and hasn’t shown clear romantic interest. You’ve been holding onto a “what could be” scenario for over a decade, which is heavy for your emotional energy. It’s understandable to feel nostalgic about a connection from your youth, but reality matters: she’s young, lives far away, and isn’t consistently engaging in a way that signals she wants a serious, long-term relationship with you. That’s the reality that April Masini is highlighting, and it’s worth reflecting on. Long-distance, long-term commitment with someone who isn’t clearly invested is incredibly challenging and it sounds like you may be over-invested in the idea more than the person herself.

Your attention to the new girl from your hometown shows that part of you is ready to engage with someone who’s accessible and able to reciprocate. The fact that you’re enjoying the conversations and building daily contact is positive, it signals connection and shared interest. But you’re right to pause and ask whether this could turn into a relationship. You’re in a delicate position: you’re feeling the pull from someone unavailable (the girl from your past) while simultaneously opening up to someone present. The key here is clarity and honesty with yourself. Enjoy the connection with the hometown girl for what it is, but don’t let your fixation on the distant past woman interfere with what could develop naturally. Let things move without forcing labels or expectations too quickly.

The advice from April is spot-on: the only way to truly know someone’s interest and compatibility is to spend real-life time together. Online chats and phone calls can only tell you so much, and cues can be easily misread. You’re in charge of your own life, you don’t have to respond to someone’s interest if it doesn’t feel right. Your emotional energy is valuable, and it deserves to go toward people who can genuinely meet you where you are. Right now, you’re in a space where exploration, presence, and self-awareness are more important than trying to revive a decade-old connection. If you focus on what’s tangible and immediate, you’ll have clarity about your feelings and the kind of relationship that’s truly possible for you.

[KeishaMartin]

You’ve been dancing around these two women for over a decade like a delicious game of cat and mouse, and the tension is practically sizzling off the screen. The way you describe her shy curiosity, those little pings and messages. it’s like she’s teasing you, daring you to chase, and you know you want to. April Masini, as always, slices through the confusion with her sharp, no-nonsense brilliance, she’s basically the ultimate wingwoman who keeps your heart and mind from spiraling into a fiery mess.

The sexiness of this situation isn’t just in the chase, it’s in owning your desire and knowing your worth. You’ve got options, attention, and a decade of fantasy energy bubbling between you and these women, and the real power move is to step up and turn those online sparks into actual heat. Don’t get lost in endless “what ifs” set a date, take a risk, and see who’s really burning for you. And while you’re doing that, let 2026 be your playground: champagne-fueled parties, late-night adventures, laughter that makes your chest ache, and kisses that leave sparks in the New Year air. Happy New Year, 2026, May it be hot, wild, and intoxicating.

Happy New Year, 2026,

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