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Im having no sibling but i have always loved my cousin more then a sibling or even more then my parents . she has 2 sisters . which are an year elder to me and she is 7 yr elder to me . she is married now and has daughter . me in my life always gave priorities to her since my childhood but she never responded to me as such , may be because we were not able to live near to each other, but from last 5 year as i shifted near for studies i use to meet her very frequently . and as always showed lots of efforts towards her , but she never showed and king to responsive effort toward me and i always felt being neglected because she always shows attention towards her daughter and husband . she never gave value to me or respect but i always neglected , while thinking that time will alter every thing . but now i m totally broken up . i know husband and daughter are important to her but does that mean she doest have to show responsive behaviour towards any one or one who always thinks for her . doesn’t the other persons want the same or may be a bit of efforts from her side . is this enough that im her brother and i shouldn’t expect even a bit from her and should understand every problem of her despite she hardly show interest in my problems . i always showed attention towards her talks , her likings , her values and has given respect and value to her but she always did contrary of all this things towards me . she doesnt show much attention towards me when she is going good with her husband and communicate bit more when she is having fights with him but i always predicted that what she says to me is indirectly said to her husband … and that make me feel like neglected ….im not talking to her these days because every time she do some thing that hurts he or my values . cant she give me my value in her life . should i continue with this relation or she would never change .. my friends some time says keep on efferting but till what time ??????? and even i do do i have to get hurted by her behavior . cant she see my effors and cant she see that how much i love to her . probably she noticed but doesnt come out with her responses towerds me , doesnt she feel that i might be getting annoyed by her responses . please tell me …….. thanks

[kai]

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[Manwhore]

She’s not your business bud. In fact this is actually an unhealthy mentality you have and you should probably seek help.

She’s a married woman with a child she’s not any business of yours you have a sick fascination with her that isn’t founded in anything but a fantasy in your head. You need to find real women in your life that are actually available. Not a family member. It seems you might have a complete lack of social skills and so are forced to go after the only woman in your life that isn’t allowed to leave it.. your cousin. This is sick and twisted man, you need to self-reflect on this.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Let me know how things are going for you? 😉

[Sally]

You care for her very deeply, but she does not show care in the same way, and that mismatch is what’s hurting you. You’ve been giving her priority, attention, and emotional support for years, hoping she would one day respond the same way. But her main focus is now her husband and daughter, and she seems to see you more as support when she’s struggling, not as someone whose emotional needs she actively considers.

You can’t make her value you more by trying harder. Love and respect can’t be forced or earned through effort alone. If you continue like this, you’ll keep feeling neglected and hurt. That doesn’t mean you must completely end the relationship, but you do need to step back, lower your expectations, and protect your own feelings. A relationship should not leave you feeling invisible. Sometimes caring for someone also means caring enough about yourself to stop over-giving.

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