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So my girlfriend and I have been together for about six months now and things have been going good so far. I met her through a mutual friend, and we hit it off instantly. We attended the same high school for a while until I had to move away, now we live in two seperate states roughly six hours away from each other.
So as I said before, we were introduced through our friend and we just loved each other immediately, so we both decided that we would spend the summer together. So we did, and it was amazing. We spent a full two months together getting to know each other and I truly fell in love with her. There is no doubt in my mind that she is the girl for me. I just have one problem. Within the first month of us being together I found out that she had been talking to a guy and everyone but me knew about it. The only reason I found out about it was because her mother asked me if she had told me about him. Which caught me off guard because I had never heard a single word about this guy before. So I asked her about it and she completely denied it and said that her mother just wanted her to be with him, or some crazy line like that. I knew at that moment that she was lying to me about it but I didn’t know how to confront her about it because I didn’t have any actual “proof”. After I asked her about it a few more times though she finally fessed up and admitted that she was interested in him, but that she completely lost all emotion feelings for him once she met me. I believe her when she says that she loves me and that she would never cheat on me, but there is still a spot inside of me that just can’t fully trust her, because of the fact that she lied straight to my face. I guess my question is, what can I do to get over not trusting her, and do I have the right to still be upset about it? Should I trust her?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

First of all, she was just talking to another guy. Not dating him — talking to him. I don’t think that’s really a bad thing. She probably didn’t tell you about it because she didn’t want to upset you. Sometimes you have to look at the big picture and understand that everyone has faults and does things you don’t like — then you decide if this is really a battle worth dying on the hill for…. in other words, is this really a fight you want to pick? My advice is not to. There are probably things you do that bother her — and if you haven’t, you will! 😆 Everyone does stuff that their partner doesn’t like sometimes. 😉

That said, I think that the new distance between the two of you is upsetting you and you’re conjuring up fears in your head or even reasons to break up with her so you don’t get hurt because you miss her so much and can’t see her the way you used to. 😳 Long distance relationships aren’t easy and they’re not for everyone, so think about whether or not this is, perhaps, a great summer romance that ended when you moved six hours away…. or not.

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