[sweetiechan]

Hm, weird, my message disappeared. Anyways. I’m quite a tough situation right now.
So, I’ve been with my boy friend for 4 years, and recently, I’ve been having something difficult to go through in my life, so we kind of just became friends, not really a break up. But just a few weeks after that, he met and fell in love with a girl online in only a couple of days. So I talked to him about it the other night, and told him that I still loved him as much as he loves her. Then the next day, I acted really immature about it, and told him I wish he loved me too, and he told me he quit loving me a couple of years ago, but never told me. But we made up and became best friends again, but I think that ruined the chance of us ever being a couple anymore.
But I wanted to ask, do you think, maybe in time, that he’ll love me again? do you think this was wrong for him to do? My heart is really broken. I don’t think I’ll find someone that I’ll love as much as him, and he said the same to me years ago.

[Ask April Masini]

Yes, you will find someone to love, who loves you back just as much and more. That much I know is true — especially if you take my advice and after you heal your broken heart 😥 you get back out there and explore dating again.

I don’t think that what your now ex-boyfriend did is wrong — there isn’t really a right and wrong when it comes to love. Although, if there were love police, who ticketed bad lovers, things would be a lot easier, wouldn’t they? 😎

I’m sorry that your heart is broken. After a four year relationship and a break up where your boyfriend has already moved on to someone else, it’s understandable that you are hurt. I don’t know if he’ll ever come back again, but I do know that you shouldn’t waste your time thinking about it. What you should do is to focus on yourself. Take care of your health (eat well, sleep well, exercise) and surround yourself with friends and family. Make sure you get out every day. Focus on your work and/or your studies, and before long you’re going to want to start making yourself attractive and smiling at other men — who [i]will[/i] smile back at you! 😉

I know that you still love him, and that’s the nature of many break ups. But the reality is that you are broken up, and you’re going to hurt, and then you’re going to heal and be fine again. And you’re going to find love. That, I promise you. 🙂

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