[boogerbear]

Hello I dated this guy about a year ago we were not together very long but it was one of the most intense relationships I have ever had, I had honestly never been happier he even said he ”loved” me however he called it off shortly afterwards as he felt things were getting too serious and he was still hung up over his ex….at first I said I understood and tried to move on but as time passed by I started getting angrier, I became bitter and depressed it almost felt like I had lost the ”old” me and it still does I’m left with so many questions and doubts about who I am , he contacted me a month or two afterwards asking if we could be friends, except I still felt bitterly hung over him so I decided against it rather than pretending to be friends with someone who I felt crazy about….after about a month I started a new long distance relationship and we have been together for more than six months and we visit each other regularly except it does not feel the same and he doesn’t know about my ex….or that I still think about him constantly I haven’t spoken to my ex in a year and I feel I will never have another chance with this individual and that I will always be left with unanswered questions I don’t want anyone to get hurt but if I keep pretending to be happy with someone else it will only backfire eventually please how do I get over my ex and move on with my life so I can be happy with someone else…..please I am truly desperate thank you

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I think that one way to get over your ex is to really process the reason for the breakup. He wanted another woman, and broke up with you so he could date her again. You were probably a rebound, and he wasn’t really yours — especially since you said it was a very short relationship. It’s very simple to fantasize what isn’t real. That’s why the movies are such a great escape! You don’t go through the rigors of a real relationship when you sit with a movie star in the movies for two hours, and if you can understand that what you had with your ex — that it was a great treat, but not a relationship with a future, you’ll be better able to see it for what it is. That should help you move on.

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