[loks09]

Hi April and all you guys out there who wants to help, my name is Adrian im 20. I was wonderin if you could help me…NO im beggin you to help me…i read your article once in yahoo about guys who are too nice either turns girls off or they just want to be “just friends” with you…and i think i got all these qualities…what now? please help… how can i not be too nice? all along i thought i was doing great…but no wonder i never get a spark of any feeling from her…until i read your article, and boy i was so happy that i came across it…so now here i am getting some quality tips/suggestions/answers/or any help from an expert like you. I need help badly…and thanks April for that article, what you are going to say is gonna save me ^^

[GPM]

This is my advice:

1. Go to school and learn how to spell, and how to use the proper punctuation. Women like guys who are smart and who can hold a good conversation.

2. Improve your self-esteem. Women like guys who are conifdent and who can take charge. That doesn’t mean you have to act like sefl-centered jerk. Rather, it means you should hold your head up and be positive.

3. Be a gentleman. Show people (women) that even though you’re full of confidence, you’re not full of yourself. In other words, you’re able to think about others and do things for others. Being kind will never hurt you, quite the opposite: it’ll help attract the right kind of woman.

I’m the nicest guy you’ll ever meet. No joke. I was a catholic monk/seminarian for about 10 years, when I finally realized it wasn’t my place. Yet when I started dating for the first time in my life, in my early 30’s, I had absolutely no problem in finding and going out with great women…. and beautiful ones too (you should see my current girlfriend). This is what they all liked about me: I’m confident, I have intelligent things to say, I’m funny, I have good values, I’m a gentleman (hold doors open, give flowers) and I’m physically active and in shape. Oh! By the way, I’m keeping sex for marriage alone, and the women I’ve met so far really respect that. What I’m trying to tell you is that nice guys don’t always finish last, only wimps do. In the end, I think that THE most important thing to develop is self-confidence.

[AskApril Masini]

Happy New Year! Let me know how things are going for you. 😉

I am here to help, and happy to answer any questions you have. 😀

[Natalie Noah]

Adrian is feeling frustrated because he believes being “too nice” is preventing him from creating a romantic spark. There’s a lot of self-awareness here, he recognizes a pattern in himself that hasn’t worked in the past and is genuinely seeking guidance. The advice he received is very solid: the key isn’t to stop being kind, but to balance kindness with confidence, self-respect, and a sense of purpose. Being a gentleman and caring for others is never a flaw, but without self-confidence and assertiveness, kindness can come across as passivity or lack of direction. Developing intelligence, humor, values, and physical activity adds layers to his personality that naturally attract the right person.

The core takeaway here is that Adrian doesn’t need to change who he is at his core. he just needs to stand taller in his own life. Confidence is magnetic, and it shows a person that you value yourself, which in turn makes others value you more. By combining genuine kindness with assertiveness and a clear sense of self, he can create authentic attraction rather than trying to manipulate feelings. Nice guys don’t finish last they just need to avoid the trap of being overly accommodating or putting others’ desires consistently above their own. The path forward is self-development, awareness of boundaries, and embracing the qualities that make him unique.

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