[elcapitan6961]

So this girl and I have been friends for about 5 months. We hang out every weekend (play tennis etc) and are pretty close. The problem is, i really like her, as more than a friend. And sometimes we fight but so far we’ve always made up. But, she does not return these feelings. I understand that i cant force it upon her, nor do i want to. But it hurts everytime i see her hanging out with other guys. (only 3 actually, two of whom she has dated and they still like her as more than friends, and one who has a girlfriend. She however, wishes that that last guy would be with her instead of his girlfriend. She constantly tells me how our school has no guys for her, except this one guy that she obsesses over. Once, by way of a misunderstanding, she told be that by boat had sailed (romantics wise), so i know she’s not interested in me. I’ve tried so hard to just be her friend, but i cant get rid of these romantic feelings.

[kikibrown22]

Hmm…sounds to me like this girl only wants what she can’t have. She also seems to like keeping guys around who are still interested in her, which means she probably likes the attention. The good thing is that she’s been clear with you about her feelings (or lack thereof).

So the way I see it, you have two choices. Either accept that she does not have feelings for you and will flirt and date other guys, or stop being her friend if you can’t handle the idea of her dating anyone else. Why would you want to date someone who didn’t like you? There are thousands of girls out there, so why waste your time dwelling on a lost cause? I guess there is a third option, which is to take a break from her (or at least spend less time together) until your feelings have died down. The best way to move on from someone is to focus your attention and energy somewhere else. Meet other girls or take up a hobby. Put your energy to good use and focus on making yourself happy.

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