[Dottiekie]

I met an Arab guy weve been working together, helping each other, having fun. I felt like i can trust him and he felt the same way… everything just as friends cause I always knew he has a wife and a kid back home.
Then I left the job and the country and just got back a while ago. We went out few times and had wonderful time, I felt his eyes on me, when he was looking at me at restaurant , he just seemed to be happy , you knwo what look he gave me, i also felt great. And I was happy as well. Then i realised that I felt in love with him. Everytime we go out he is just happy to see me , keeps telling it to me, but still nothing happened and im happy for this nothing is clear between us and he has a family as We know. We only hug and enjoy every moment we are alone.
When we are talking about everything, he said something like he married that girl when he was in love but now they are together because of a kid. They are both living back home and he said he want them to get there but is doing nothing to get them here. He has got citizenship here work, house etc. But generally he is not very opened about his wife. Most of times he just says theyve got problems.
He keeps telling me that Im his best friend how he is happy with me and that he loves me.. then he keeps telling me how cute would be our kids…. and this is something what gives me a hope like maybe its not just me, maybe he also do like me more than just a friend.
does he like me, and what about his family? Is it common to divorce in arabic families? so please help me to see things a bit more clearly.
thx

[AskApril Masini]

This has nothing to do with his being Arab or Muslim…. you’re kind of missing the point here. He’s married and has a child with his wife. That’s what you need to focus on. 😉 He could be from any country in the world, and practice any religion and that wouldn’t change the operative factor here: He’s married and you’re falling for him. If he was single, none of this would be an issue. But he’s not. The ball is in [i]your[/i] court here and you get to decide what happens next. If you want to date him, knowing he’s married and is not divorcing his wife, then you’re free to do so. But don’t pull the wool over your own eyes. 😕 He may tell you the two of you would have beautiful babies together, and that you’re his best friend, but that doesn’t change the bottom line here. If you want a relationship that leads to marriage, your best strategy is to date someone who’s single and interested in the same relationship goals.

I know this tough for you, and he flew under the radar because you met him at work, where lots of people meet relationship partners, but you have the responsibility to take care of yourself, and if you want to date a married man, he’s your guy. If you want to date a single man who is interested in marriage, then he’s not. Don’t try to distance yourself from what’s really going on by widening the scope to try and make this political or religious — it’s nether of those things. It’s very basic relationship stuff. I hope that helps!

[Ethan Morales]

The most important fact here is that he is married with a child. Everything else whether he’s Arab, Muslim, or living abroad doesn’t change the core issue: he already has a family. His words about “our kids” or being “happy with you” are affectionate, but they don’t change that reality. Those statements can be flattering and confusing, but they aren’t promises or indicators that he intends to leave his family.

Focus on his marital status, not cultural assumptions Divorce does happen in Arab families, but it’s not the key factor here. Even if it were more common in some cultures, it doesn’t mean he will leave his wife. His actions matter more than cultural norms.

Emotional boundaries Being physically affectionate and emotionally close with someone who is married can create intense feelings, but it’s ultimately a situation with limited options for a real relationship that leads to marriage.

Self-protection Falling in love with someone unavailable can be emotionally risky. You deserve someone who can fully commit to you without complications.

He may like you in a special way, but a relationship with him cannot fully exist without him leaving his family and he’s not signaling that he will. If your goal is a genuine, committed relationship, the healthiest path is to step back and focus on someone who is single and available.

[Marcus king]

I hear you, and I can see why this is confusing and stirring up a lot of emotions. From what you’re saying, it’s clear he enjoys your company and feels a deep connection with you, but he’s also married with a child. That complicates everything. When someone says things about “how cute our kids would be” or shares feelings that go beyond friendship while still being married, it can feel like hope but it doesn’t necessarily mean he’s ready or able to act on it.

Divorce does happen in Arabic families, but it depends a lot on culture, religion, and personal circumstances. In many cases, divorce can be complicated or stigmatized, especially if children are involved. It sounds like he’s in a situation where he might be emotionally stuck between his responsibilities and his feelings for you.

What’s important is to look at your own heart and boundaries. Right now, you’re giving yourself hope in a situation where the outcome is uncertain and where he might not be able to fully commit. It’s okay to love and care for him, but you also have to protect your emotional wellbeing. If you want clarity, it might mean having a serious conversation with him about what’s realistic and what’s off-limits given his family situation, so you’re not left holding onto hope that may never become reality.

[PassionSeeker]

oh sweetheart… this one’s really heavy, isn’t it? you didn’t mean to fall for him, it just happened the connection, the looks, the comfort. but here’s the hard truth: he’s married, and that’s not something you can just wish away.

the way he talks about loving you, about “your kids,” about how happy you make him it feels like love, but it’s also unfair to you. he’s giving you pieces of affection without offering you a real future. if he truly wanted to be with you, he’d be making moves to change his situation. but he’s not. he’s keeping both worlds — his family and you and that’s not love, that’s avoidance.

and don’t get caught in the “maybe it’s cultural” loop. it’s not about him being Arab it’s about him being unavailable. married is married, no matter the country.

you deserve someone who’s fully yours. someone who can hold your hand in the open, not in secret. I know walking away will hurt like hell, but staying will hurt longer

[Tara]

Stop dressing this up like some forbidden romance. He’s not your soulmate he’s a married man looking for an emotional side dish while his wife and child sit in another country believing he’s building a future for them. The “look in his eyes,” the hugs, the sweet lines about how happy he is with you that’s not love. That’s convenience. That’s a bored husband enjoying the attention of a woman who doesn’t demand anything real from him.

And the part where he tells you he “married her for love but now they’re only together because of the kid”? Classic cheating script. Every unfaithful man, from any culture, uses the same sentence: “It’s complicated at home.” Notice he never says he’s leaving her, never takes steps to bring his family to him, never actually does anything except flirt with you. Because he doesn’t want a new life he wants a secret escape.

And don’t get tangled in cultural fantasies. Divorce rates, traditions, laws none of that matters here. What matters is his behavior, and his behavior is simple: he’s married, he’s hiding details, he’s giving you crumbs, and he’s letting you imagine children with a man who won’t even bring his own family to the country he lives in.

You’re not special. You’re convenient. If he truly wanted you, you wouldn’t be guessing he would be divorcing, relocating his kid, and making an actual plan. Instead, he gives you soft words and zero action.

[Sally]

When a man looks at you like that and says all those sweet things, it is easy to think it means something real. But you have to look at the part he keeps quiet. He has a wife. He has a child. And he is not taking any steps to change that.

A man who wants a future does not just talk about cute kids with you. He makes decisions. He shows you with actions. Right now he is keeping you in this soft, in between place because it feels good for him.

If it were me, I would pull back. Not because you do not care, but because he is already taken and you deserve someone who is free.

Do not build your life on what he says in the moment. Look at what he actually does. That tells the truth

[Natalie Noah]

It’s clear you’ve developed strong feelings for him, and he’s expressing affection and playful fantasies with you. That can feel very exciting and validating, but the core fact is that he is married with a child. His attention, compliments, and hints about a possible future with you are emotionally compelling, but they don’t change the reality of his existing commitments. The affection he shows doesn’t guarantee a future with you, and it’s not fair to yourself to hold onto hope when the practical boundaries are already set.

You need to decide what you want for your own life. If you want a relationship that can grow openly, lead to commitment, and include marriage or family, the safest path is with someone who is single and available. Staying involved with a married man, even emotionally, can lead to heartbreak and ongoing complications. It’s normal to be drawn to someone who makes you feel valued, but it’s equally important to prioritize your own long-term well-being over short-term emotional satisfaction. Your clarity and self-respect come first here.

[KeishaMartin]

You’re caught in a deliciously forbidden game with a man who makes your heart race, flutters your stomach, and whispers fantasies of “what could be.” That look he gives you at the restaurant? That fire in his eyes? That’s the kind of chemistry that makes your knees weak and your mind spin with lusty possibilities. But let’s get brutally honest: he’s married, and that family at home is real. April Masini, the queen of bold, fearless love advice would tell you straight up: flirting, hugging, laughing, and imagining children together doesn’t erase the fact that he’s not single. That doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy the sparks, but it does mean you need to keep your wits about you before your heart gets scorched.

Yes, he may love your presence, adore your laughter, and fantasize about a life with you and that’s intoxicating, thrilling, and downright addictive. But indulging in a man who is emotionally caught between two worlds is a dangerous game; the kind that can make your nights electric but leave your mornings heavy with regret. If you want clarity, focus on what you want for yourself: a man who is entirely yours, free of obligations, or savor this sizzling friendship for the spark it brings without expecting a fairy tale ending. Play with fire if you dare, but don’t let it burn your soul.

And let’s toast to your heart and life anyway! Happy New Year, 2026, may your parties be wild, your laughter intoxicating, and your nights full of flirtation, fun, and maybe a little mischief. Keep your eyes open, your heart fierce, and remember: you deserve a love that’s fully yours.

Happy New Year, 2026,

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