[Dottiekie]

I met an Arab guy weve been working together, helping each other, having fun. I felt like i can trust him and he felt the same way… everything just as friends cause I always knew he has a wife and a kid back home.
Then I left the job and the country and just got back a while ago. We went out few times and had wonderful time, I felt his eyes on me, when he was looking at me at restaurant , he just seemed to be happy , you knwo what look he gave me, i also felt great. And I was happy as well. Then i realised that I felt in love with him. Everytime we go out he is just happy to see me , keeps telling it to me, but still nothing happened and im happy for this nothing is clear between us and he has a family as We know. We only hug and enjoy every moment we are alone.
When we are talking about everything, he said something like he married that girl when he was in love but now they are together because of a kid. They are both living back home and he said he want them to get there but is doing nothing to get them here. He has got citizenship here work, house etc. But generally he is not very opened about his wife. Most of times he just says theyve got problems.
He keeps telling me that Im his best friend how he is happy with me and that he loves me.. then he keeps telling me how cute would be our kids…. and this is something what gives me a hope like maybe its not just me, maybe he also do like me more than just a friend.
does he like me, and what about his family? Is it common to divorce in arabic families? so please help me to see things a bit more clearly.
thx

[Ask April Masini]

This has nothing to do with his being Arab or Muslim…. you’re kind of missing the point here. He’s married and has a child with his wife. That’s what you need to focus on. 😉 He could be from any country in the world, and practice any religion and that wouldn’t change the operative factor here: He’s married and you’re falling for him. If he was single, none of this would be an issue. But he’s not. The ball is in [i]your[/i] court here and you get to decide what happens next. If you want to date him, knowing he’s married and is not divorcing his wife, then you’re free to do so. But don’t pull the wool over your own eyes. 😕 He may tell you the two of you would have beautiful babies together, and that you’re his best friend, but that doesn’t change the bottom line here. If you want a relationship that leads to marriage, your best strategy is to date someone who’s single and interested in the same relationship goals.

I know this tough for you, and he flew under the radar because you met him at work, where lots of people meet relationship partners, but you have the responsibility to take care of yourself, and if you want to date a married man, he’s your guy. If you want to date a single man who is interested in marriage, then he’s not. Don’t try to distance yourself from what’s really going on by widening the scope to try and make this political or religious — it’s nether of those things. It’s very basic relationship stuff. I hope that helps!

[Ethan Morales]

The most important fact here is that he is married with a child. Everything else whether he’s Arab, Muslim, or living abroad doesn’t change the core issue: he already has a family. His words about “our kids” or being “happy with you” are affectionate, but they don’t change that reality. Those statements can be flattering and confusing, but they aren’t promises or indicators that he intends to leave his family.

Focus on his marital status, not cultural assumptions Divorce does happen in Arab families, but it’s not the key factor here. Even if it were more common in some cultures, it doesn’t mean he will leave his wife. His actions matter more than cultural norms.

Emotional boundaries Being physically affectionate and emotionally close with someone who is married can create intense feelings, but it’s ultimately a situation with limited options for a real relationship that leads to marriage.

Self-protection Falling in love with someone unavailable can be emotionally risky. You deserve someone who can fully commit to you without complications.

He may like you in a special way, but a relationship with him cannot fully exist without him leaving his family and he’s not signaling that he will. If your goal is a genuine, committed relationship, the healthiest path is to step back and focus on someone who is single and available.

[Marcus king]

I hear you, and I can see why this is confusing and stirring up a lot of emotions. From what you’re saying, it’s clear he enjoys your company and feels a deep connection with you, but he’s also married with a child. That complicates everything. When someone says things about “how cute our kids would be” or shares feelings that go beyond friendship while still being married, it can feel like hope but it doesn’t necessarily mean he’s ready or able to act on it.

Divorce does happen in Arabic families, but it depends a lot on culture, religion, and personal circumstances. In many cases, divorce can be complicated or stigmatized, especially if children are involved. It sounds like he’s in a situation where he might be emotionally stuck between his responsibilities and his feelings for you.

What’s important is to look at your own heart and boundaries. Right now, you’re giving yourself hope in a situation where the outcome is uncertain and where he might not be able to fully commit. It’s okay to love and care for him, but you also have to protect your emotional wellbeing. If you want clarity, it might mean having a serious conversation with him about what’s realistic and what’s off-limits given his family situation, so you’re not left holding onto hope that may never become reality.

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