[Irishbygosh]

I’m 67, widowed almost 7 years. Went out with 2 losers since my husband passed away. A year ago I met a man who is 56. We belong to the same organization. I saw him a couple times a month at different function and talked to him at length. He’s divorced for 7 years. I notice him looking at me, always smiling. Lately we’ve talked more and for longer periods of time. One night he asked me why he can’t find a nice girl to go out with. I said, I guess for the same reason I can’t find a nice guy. Last week, we were both at the same place, but I didn’t see him there. I went out to my car for something and as I walked in, he was walking out. He said he was going home, I said goodnight. He grabbed me and kissed me. Shocked me, but a nice shock! Last Sat night, we were at the place at the same time. We talked for about 3 hours. He told me parts of his life I know he wouldn’t tell just anyone. Again, as we were leaving, another kiss. While we were talking, I gave him my number. I live about an hour away right now, but I told him to call me, that I would make us dinner as we both eat alone. Of course no call, but I understand that right now I’m probably too far away. I will be moving closer Oct 1st. Am I putting more into this than is there? Is there interest on his part? I’ll see him tomorrow night at another function. Am I better off to just stay with my friends and let him make a move toward me? It’s very hard to start the dating thing after being married for a long time. I don’t want to embarrass him, nor do I want to be embarrassed! We like the same things, can talk and laugh with each other for hours. I need help!

[Ask April Masini]

First of all, [i]it’s not just you[/i]. He likes you. Any guy who grabs you and kisses you, and spends three hours telling you about his life and having a great conversation with you is INTERESTED! 😉

Second of all, your instincts are right not to push. You gave him your number and you’ve invited him for dinner. Enough. Let him be the guy — he’s already proved to you he knows exactly how to do that! 😆 You can dial up the flirting (I know you’ve been out of the dating game, but I’m quite sure you know how to flirt with him.) and that alone will let him know you’re interested in him as a friend — and more. If he wants to call you and ask you out, he will. Waiting is tough — but not if you’re busy, so keep busy. Focus on yourself and doing things that occupy your time so you don’t find yourself behaving like the guy instead of the girl — let HIM do the chasing, not you!

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go. And join me on Facebook. I’d love to have you as a member of AskApril.com on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

[Irishbygosh]

April, I gotta thank you for the reply and for lifting me up! Saw him again on Sat night, but really no time to talk much. A kiss hello. The place was crowded, he was busy, I was busy with my friends. In my heart I think I know he’s interested, but I won’t let my feelings show until I know for sure that he is. Since we both belong to the same organization, I don’t to embarrass myself or him. I’m not chasing after him. Like you said, he can come to me. In fact, I left Sat night without saying goodbye to him. This is so hard to begin again and feel like a teenager! It’s a scary world out there!!!! Again, thanks for bolstering my ego!!!!

[Ask April Masini]

I’m glad I helped you 😀 and that you’re feeling good about things. You may want to take a look at my book, Think & Date Like A Man, that is written for women who want to get a better handle on their dating life. Specifically, it may be a great refresher course for you in all that dating entails — and how it’s changed since you last stepped onto the scene. You’ll get a lot of help with advice on how to show him you’re interested without backing him into a corner and taking out a neon sign that announces your feelings! 😆 Here’s the link for the book: [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. Let me know if it helps (I think it will!!).

And don’t forget to join me on Facebook! Here’s that link — membership is free! [url][/url].

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