[buddy12]

I’m 21 years old and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 4 years. I have never had an orgasm in the time I have been with him and I feel like my sex drive is going away, and at such a young age! We don’t fight and we are like best friends. I feel like our intimacy has gone down so much, there is no excitement anymore. I do love him, but the butterflies are missing. When we are in bed, I would rather get my 8hrs of sleep than have sex because I don’t get as much pleasure out of it. The only time I have been able to orgasm is when I was able to do it alone by myself. We live together and I’m not sure what to do. I can’t even imagine breaking up with him for something like this because everything else is perfect. He rubs my feet every night, is the sweetest man ever, and is even handsome. How can I boost this relationship up, or is it too late…are we in some kind of friend-zone???!! 🙄

[April Masini, your AskApril]

This is a communication issue — it’s not really about sex. Since you’re able to have an orgasm alone, you have to communicate to him what makes you feel good and what you’d like him to do. As awkward and uncomfortable as this may seem, you’ve got a lot to gain by working through this and a lot to lose by not dealing with it. He wants you to have a good sex life with him, and he’ll be very glad to be able to work this through with you. 😉

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