[dan_riv27]

I have been getting my hair cut by the same stylist for about nine months, and until today it felt like regular, comfortable small talk, you know, “how was your week?” and the usual salon banter. But today she turned the conversation in a way that left me buzzing all evening. She asked a lot more personal questions than usual, about my family, my weekend plans, and what I like to do when I’m not working. She even mentioned an ex-boyfriend of hers and asked what I thought about dating after a breakup, which felt oddly intimate for a haircut conversation.
She laughed at everything I said, even the stupid jokes I don’t usually get away with. At one point she lingered by the sink and asked, “So, do you have any big plans this weekend?” and when I said “nothing much,” her reaction felt… warm, not just polite. After she finished, she took a second to tuck a loose strand behind my ear like she’d hesitated — tiny thing, but it stuck with me.
I want to be clear: I don’t want to make her job uncomfortable or put her on the spot. I also don’t want to be that client who shows up every few weeks and gets weird when the conversation changes. I keep finding myself replaying the appointment, was she flirting, or is she just naturally chatty and friendly? If she is interested, what’s the best way to ask someone out who you only see once every few weeks? Do I try a low-key tactic (buying a shampoo as an excuse), ask for her Instagram, or say something direct at checkout like, “Hey, would you like coffee sometime when you’re not working?” I don’t want to create an awkward scene in her workplace — nor do I want to miss my chance.
Has anyone here asked out a service-provider without making it weird? What worked? How can I keep it respectful but clear — especially when our only real overlap is this appointment every few weeks? (Prefer anonymous replies — thanks.)

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