I find it really weird for a grown adult to ask this kind of questions on a platform like this but I’m really baffled.
There is this amazing girl I’ve known for 6 months, we spend like 6-8 hours together 4 days a week and sometimes more so on total like 30 hours a week as we are working on something together.
And from that moment on there have been continuous mixed signals from her, for example last week she wrote my name out of the blue on a chair on the place we are working at with manicure so it will be there for ever.. she got testy with a female colleague for flirting with me but then she played it cool as if it was a joke, she posted on twitter quoting ” say something I’m giving up on you”. at the same time it takes her ages to reply to a whatsapp message and sometimes she ignores it completely. she alienated herself from me for like 2 weeks and took a vacation but then returned with more gestures and signals than before.. she always picks on me but in a playful way and I do so as well.
and so on this is just what happened in the last few days but I can safely say it has been going on like that for the past 4-5 months.
Both of us have just gotten out of two broken relationships that lasted for years. so I’m kinda hesitant and not sure when or if it’s even right to act or if I’m misreading the situation and there are no signals or gestures or whatsoever..
I want to add that The thing is that I genuinely think she is a good human being, we touched on a personal level so I saw a spark of her inner self which she is trying really hard to hide.. I’m also a very close friend to her sister -very close- and from all the conversations I had with her sister and the glimpse I saw from her she is really terrified of a new relationship.. her last one ended badly – being left at the altar badly- so I can understand her attitude sometimes and why she acts hot and cold constantly.. and as I said we touched on a personal level and I really don’t wanna lose her as a friend.. and if the relationship doesn’t work out or if she doesn’t like me back no matter what we say about a friendship with an ex.. it’s not gonna work..
this might seem like a problem two teenagers might have and that what’s baffling me! we are supposed to be more mature than this!
I’ve been rambling on for ages and I suspect anyone would read all of this nonsense but anyway sorry and any help would be appreciated..
