[Loveless06]

my ex gf and i been separated since 08. we have a son together and we were once married, years ago, couple years ago before our son. we always had a on/off relationship. since we broke up she has had 2 relationships over a year each. she recently got back together with her last bf. we always hang out and talk and text all the time. we stay at each others apts and walk around wearing whatever we want. love when she walks around wearing a shirt and panties. recently our son got sick and i called out of work to stay and help her out. she hugged me and kissed me. i took it as a way of her saying thanks but i’m a lil confused because we haven’t kissed in a long time. what could that mean? she tells me she loves her bf and misses him when they are not together but that she is not sexually satisfied with him. btw there is no sex between us but when we were together we used to fool around everyday. anyways i spank her all the time and only at times she minds. and i give her back massages all the time and her legs as well. my question is: is she looking to give us another shot at being together? what does it means when she tells me these things or that she kissed me? need help on this one. thank you.

[piglet369]

Well, i think maybe you should have a talk with her. To me it seems as if she wants to get back with you, but then again shes still telling this guy shes in a relationship with that she misses him etc. You don’t want to act too impulsively, because it might just be she doesn’t want to get back with you, you never know until you talk to her.

So I suggest that next time or something you guys are together bring it up, and ask whats going on with you two. Express how you feel but don’t come on too strong cause it could seem like you are smothering her or something. I would just say something like (not exact words) ” for the past (however long you guys have been hanging out again) ive just been thinking and my feelings have started to come back and i was wondering how you felt about me and if you want to pursue this, since you kissed me and etc etc but you still tell your boyfriend you miss him.”

as for why she kissed you and she tells you these things, it could be a few things. all girls are different so i cant tell you EXACTLY what shes thinking. maybe she likes you and wants you back, but still tries to make it seem okay with her current boyfriend by saying i miss you and stuff so hes not suspicious. maybe she just likes the attention and thats why shes doing the things shes doing. also, she could be confused, she likes you but she cares about her boyfriend and if thats the case, she has some decisions to make. she also could just be caught up in what you used to be and just wants to have one last fling or something? if that makes sense

just ask and try and be open with her, since only she can tell you what she feels and the reasons behind her actions

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I think [b]piglet369[/b] gave you some good advice that is very solid, but here’s what I have to say:

You haven’t really said what you want. It sounds like the two of you fall in and out of your relationship, and if you want to fall back in, she’s flirting with you, so the door is open. That said, she’s also acknowledging she misses her boyfriend, which means the door may shut again. She’s clearly all over the map, but you haven’t been very clear about what you want in your life.

It’s probably better if instead of keeping up this pattern of off and on again throughout your life with her, you make a decision as to whether you want a committed relationship with her once and for all, or not. I’m not really hearing that she’s “the one” even though you were once married. It sounds like she’s Ms. Right Now, not Ms. Right. 😳

I hope that helps.

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