[Tuuvok]

I know her for 3 and a half years. She is very beautiful and successful, may be way out of my lead. We had a close relation for about a year and a half, emotionally and sexually. The last 2 years we had no sex, no closeness, but we still continue to be friends. We haven’t broke up, we just changed the status of our relationship, actually she changed. For a half of year she had some health problems and we could not have sex. But then we continued our life without sex. These 2 years we talk every day, we see each other as often as before,but we have no sex, no kissing, no touching. She say i’m the closest person to her and she misses me even when she don’t see me for 1 or 2 days. She’s gelous when see other ladies.
Recently i found out that during these 2 years she had two secret sexual relations of about 3 months with 2 guys. She told me that. And she was really worried if i will leave her. She told me she wanted to make an experiment and now she hates what she did. She don’t see those guys anymore. She do not really care for them now
But we continue to see each other every day Almost 4 years already), having fun, doing stuff together, we even lived together for a month, but without any physical closeness. She don’t have any financial interests or other, she just love spending time with me. So why aren’t we close again.
I love her so much, i want her so much. Why don’t we break up? Why don’t she leave me, if she is not interested physically in me. I know that she have no other sexual relationship now. She’s so weird. What should i do? I love seeing her every day, and we spent great time together. Why won’t she have sex with me again? I’m sure there is no problem of my performance. She was very pleased with our sex life, otherwise she would told me.
Probably i still love her as a woman, but she loves only as a friend
But i don’t want anyone else except her. Will we ever be close again?
What should i do?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

She’s keeping you around because she likes things the way they are. That you had a relationship that included sex for over a year, and then it stopped — isn’t normal. She told you that the reason she stopped having sex with you was her health (what kind of health problem did she say she had?), but then it turned out she wasn’t being honest with you and she was actually having sex with two other men. Now, she’s not having sex with you still — there’s a good chance she’s doing the same thing she used to do — having sex with other men behind your back. 😕

Either she doesn’t really see you as the type of man she wants a long term commitment with, or she doesn’t see herself marrying you, but she likes you as a friend, so she’s friend zoned you. 😮

My advice is to decide that you’re not going to see her anymore as a friend. It’s too confusing and painful for you because you want more and she doesn’t — and she isn’t going to change the status of the relationship. You asked why you don’t break up, and the answer is because you’ve decided to stay under her terms. 😳

If you move on, you’ll feel single again, and you’ll be free to find someone who wants the same kind of relationship with you that you want with her. 😉

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