[Anonymous]

Dear April I have always heard that after a breakup that guys seem to get over the relationship faster then the girl not always I know but most of the time, but I have also heard that guys after a breakup are in denial there head says I’m over you”, while their heart is saying a different thing (in total denial of feelings and grief). and that they basically guys just block the feelings, trying not to deal with the situation ( just hide everything under the rug and pretend it’s gone), and that in time they finally realize what they’ve lost and want you back, but at the time they want the girl back she has usually cried, been depressed, healed, started beleiving in love again, moved on, probably started seeing someone and totally forgot about them. and then the guy wishes he could go back in time and change things. So what I want to know is if you see any truth in this. I know in the past that I have had boyfriends and we would break up and they would have a new girlfriend in a blink of an eye and then months later I would hear from them again wanting me back and I would already be moved on. So I was just wondering if you think what I just said was true about guys moving on fast and then later on regretting it but the girl is already moved on.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Everybody is different and they react to break ups differently. A lot of break up reaction has to do with the reason for the break up. For instance if there was infidelity in the relationship some people are so hurt they take a very long time to trust someone again, while others can’t wait to get back out there and find someone who’s loyal. If someone stays in a relationship past it’s unwritten expiration date 😆 and finally breaks it off long after he or she should have, they may be very excited to start dating again. Other people don’t realize how hard dating can be for them, and are disillusioned by the dating field after being in a long term relationship.

All that said, there are studies on divorce and men usually rebound and remarry more quickly than women do in actual divorces, but as for break ups, it all depends on the individual.

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