[Lazysquirrel]

I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. We actually are renting a room together. I have severe separation issues so that was part of the reason for moving in. Right now, I’m not really happy, but I’m not miserable either. I know I don’t want to be with him forever and think maybe it’s time to move on. Little things he does I thought were cute, now seem annoying. In the first year I put so much shit on him and I just don’t want to abandon him after everything he’s done for me. I want to be happy though. I can’t help feeling like love isn’t supposed to be like this- just settling I guess. How do I get the confidence to break up with him? Or even should I?

[Anonymous]

I was in the same situation with my ex I lived with him because I didn’t have
Anywhere else to go so I figure it would work out but I was miserable untill one day
I made that change I wasn’t happy I never loved him I cared for him but love wasn’t
In my heart, so do the right thing before its to late I now have a wonderful boyfriend
And I’m very much in love with him he means the world to me so don’t wait to the last
Moment to know he ant the one remember life is short so make the right choice
Good luck.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m not sure how old you are, or what you do when you’re not sharing a rented room with your boyfriend (close quarters!). Are you in college? Do you work? Does he?

If you moved in with your boyfriend to alleviate your separate issues (and by the way, who were you anxious about separating from?), it seems like love and marriage never really entered into this living set up. It was a way to cure your anxiety. Which it did! 🙂 But now you’re looking for more than just a solution for your psychological issues. You’re looking for a relationship that makes you feel good about your life.

It doesn’t sound like he’s done anything really wrong, but then again, it doesn’t sound like you’ve ever really been in love with him. Your moving in with him was a way to cure one problem, but now another one has popped up. 😮

It seems like maybe changing your living situation so you live alone — or with a female roommate — but still date your boyfriend will give you some space from being around him so much. It will also give you an opportunity to work on your separation issues — (although I’m not sure exactly what they are) — and not be so bothered with the quirks your boyfriend has that seem to bug you.

I hope that helps.

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