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Dear April

I have been dating this guy for over a month but we were friends first and so things progressed from there.There is no doubt that I trust and love him – the relationship right now is good but we have our bad days like everyone else and we are working at making this last a long time. Thing is before me and him started dating he just got out of a 2 year relationship with his ex and before i accepted his advances i told him that he needs to get over her first before me and him start something because i didn’t want to be the rebound chick. clearly he is over her and he has told me that on several occasions and he has stopped all communication with her since the break up. The problem i have currently is that his ex has just broken up with her boyfriend and i knew she would try her luck and try push in on my man. now she is busy writing on her facebook how she misses him and so forth even saying ” Lloyd *screaming* where are you” ..The thing about me is that I am not the jealous type and i don’t know what to do?Should I confront him?Or confront her?I honestly don’t have a clue because seeing all those posts on her facebook and knowing that she may be forming some plan to try get him back is making me not a happy camper at all.

He makes it a point to always let me know hoe he feels about me and everything else a girl wants to hear from her boyfriend the problem is that I don’t trust her and i trust him.What should I do???

Thanks for helping me out in advance

[Ask April Masini]

Good question! 🙂

First of all, do not confront [b]her[/b]. She is trying to interfere in your relationship. If you give her any attention it validates her place in your life. So your best bet is to ignore her.

Second, ask your boyfriend what he thinks of all the Facebook posts from her. Listen to him. If his behavior hasn’t given you any reason to distrust him, then don’t.

What is important is the communication and intimacy between you and your boyfriend. In your future there will be other challenges from people who want to intrude — they may be your exes, they may be a future in-law or relative, they may be someone from work. You will always win when you ignore outside forces and strengthen your relationship from within.

I hope that helps! Good luck. 😀

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