[Flash24]

I’ve been dating this girl for 9 months and everything was so great we got along so well, we never were fighting and always enjoyed being around each other. Everything was perfect. We go to 2 different colleges and she really wanted us to continue the long distance. She was coming home for the summer and sure enough we got back together and everything seemed to be heading back the way we wanted it to be spending time together making each other laugh always. Maybe a month or two later she breaks up with me and says she “lost feelings” and “doesn’t love me anymore” just all out of the blue the night before it happened we were texting normal and she was saying “I love you so much” and “can’t wait to talk to you in the morning” even when I woke up the next morning she was acting normal calling me “hot boy” and everything. Then shortly after she tells me all that stuff and that she can’t be with me if she isn’t truly happy. She says she doesn’t want to leave but can’t fight what her mind and heart are telling her. This girl talked about wanting to have kids with me and marriage and all of that stuff. I really think family issues has got to her and just weighing on her seeing that she doesn’t really talk about them. I always try to give her the best advice on what to do. She said I was the best boyfriend ever. Now she is going to a school close to me but we haven’t talked in a week in a half and have been broken up for two. I love her and want her back. She said she is not looking for anybody

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It sounds like something’s going on in her life — she’s changed colleges and instead of going to school far away from home, she’s now going to a new school nearby. I think she’s feeling conflicted and maybe overwhelmed by some things you haven’t mentioned — maybe because she hasn’t mentioned them to you! Why not hang back, but balance that with flowers, little gifts, invitations to have coffee, and emails or texts letting her know you’re thinking of her. Give that a set amount of time so you don’t fall into the friend zone, and after that set amount of time, if you don’t have a good reaction from her, then move on. But give it this one last shot. Can’t hurt, and it might help!

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