Sorry, but I think this relationship has run it’s course and is not salvageable. 🙁 If after living together for 5 years, your boyfriend is now wanting space within your home together to make late night phone calls to his old flame, and probably other women as well, and suddenly says the relationship will only work with a “don’t ask don’t tell” policy, you’re basically being used. He wants other women. It’s time for you to move on.
Relationships have their own lives, but this one is dying. After 5 years, a relationship that was growing towards intimacy and closeness would have resulted in marriage or some kind of commitment. Instead, yours has gone in the opposite direction and he’s basically breaking up with you without moving out of the house.
For your own sake, either kick him out, or you move out, and start valuing yourself so that you know what a great boyfriend looks like — and if you want to know what one doesn’t look like, it’s a five year live-in boyfriend who wants to chat with other women at all hours of the day and night, and not allow you to ask any questions about his whereabouts. That, I’m afraid, is the definition of a bad boyfriend. 🙄
Next!
