[orchie]

i’m already 24, we’ve been dating for 2 years already and i told my mom and my sister that i’ll be going with my boyfriend’s family (mom, dad, siblings, nephews, nieces) this sunday to go on vacation. they won’t allow me because i think they’re too worried about me being alone with another family.. and they said that i told them that i’m leaving town too soon. and they’re appealing to my sister’s “misfortune” of being operated last month due to thyroid problems.

i really want to go because the last time i went on a vacation like that was last 2001. i never go on vacations even with my friends because of my busy schedule at work and because i need to save up on it… and i think that right now is a good timing because i’m allowed at my work to go on vacation for a week and i have savings for the trip..

it’s not like i’m going to do something stupid.. and a lot of my friends are already independent, living alone and all.. why can’t they just accept that i am capable of being independent?

help.. how do i convince them?

thanks in advance

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You convince them of your independence by BEING independent. 😆 Right now, all you’re doing is talking about independence, but acting dependent. 😳 You’re an adult. Now walk the walk. You’re 24 years old, you work, you have a boyfriend, and if you want to go on vacation with him, I don’t see why you shouldn’t.

Your family is entitled to their opinion, but there will be many times in life when you don’t agree with your family, and you have to decide how you’re going to live your own life. This is one of those times. Go on vacation, bring your family back a gift, and continue to balance your own independence with your respect for your family and their feelings without compromising your own life.

[Bea Celine]

Explain to your mom that you’re in a legal age right now, so please allow you to decide on your own, and trust you that you wouldn’t do anything that can disappoint them. Obeying our parents is very very good but we have to insist that we need to be independent because we’re not a child anymore. You have a boyfriend, stable job, and savings, so there’s no reason for them to not allow you to go with that vacation, and promise them that you won’t make them disappointed.

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