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it started in late october. she asked for my number. we are in college and in the same class. she had a boyfriend and i knew about it. she broke up with him though i was not the reason. she liked talking to me. we shared our interest on a level i have never experienced before. she gave me all the signals which made me believe there was something. she even told me that she consulted a tarot reader and i am her soulmate. she always told me that she doesnt want her past back. i proposed her in november but she told that she needs time and all. so i gave her time. she met her ex even after the breakup and was in touch with him and told me that they are friends. i again proposed her 15days back and she told me that she will be going back to her ex. i am broken. our friendship has suffered. what should i do. i cant decide. my hopes dont die even now. SOS

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m so sorry you’re hurt. Rejection is painful, but if you look at it from a different angle, you’ll see that it’s really a gift in disguise. Finding someone to marry takes work, and you have to play the odds. If someone tells you that they’re not interested in you, they’re allowing you to move on and not waste your time with someone who isn’t going to be right — and by doing so, you’re giving them that same gift. I know it doesn’t seem like a gift right now, but if she’s turned down two proposals, you need to accept her rejection and realize she’s saving you time that you might otherwise be wasting on someone who will never be your Ms. Right.

It’s very unusual to propose to someone after only one month of dating, so for future, get to know someone better before investing yourself emotionally like you did this time. You won’t be as hurt.

Check out Date Out of Your League, [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url], a book I wrote for men who want to win with women. It will give you tips and advice you’ll find helpful in finding a woman to propose marriage to! 😉

I hope that helps and that you feel better soon! Please follow me @AskAprilcom (no dot) on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

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