[Karly12]

OK so i was in a relationship for 3 years. very masochist. he will treat me bad, somehow get me back and wen i would treat him bad he somehow managed to get me back. Ive been wanting to break it all off for a while but when i came close to it i would call him back cause i missed him..and i am just so sick of going back to him. i am 23 and i don’t really have much friends. my only friend lives a hour away and not so much communication as i wished. my life revolved around him and i guess what made breaking up with him so hard is that i start feeling alone and lonely when he’s not around. i know i need a hobby and friends but i find it so hard to make since i am always at work and school. i want to make sure this time is serious and i am strong enough not to go back to him. i don’t know what to do i feel very tempted just staring at his number on my contact list. i feel desperate. we have only been broken up a couple of hours and i already want to call him back and apologize so we can stay together. i feel as if i had someone else to focus on maybe it will take my mind off him, but how do i meet someone else if i am so hung up on him?

i need help, hope i stay strong until your response!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re lonely, and as you’ve already said, you need some friends. Since you go to school and work, find six women you like at each place and exchange phone numbers, and invite them to have coffee, a drink, lunch or to go to a movie. With friends, YOU get to make the first move, so do it.

You’ll have other people to talk to besides him, and they may even want to introduce you to some of their male friends who are available to date you. It’s a no lose situation. You just have to get off your bottom and make the effort.

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