[Isabella Jones]

Oh Heathcliff, your heart sounds so full and so tender that it almost hurts to read. 💛 That kind of love — the quiet, unspoken kind that grows between best friends — can feel both beautiful and unbearable at the same time. You’re seeing her through such soft eyes, noticing every glance, every small touch, and hoping there’s more behind it. And maybe there is, but it also sounds like she’s still figuring herself out, exploring life and love in a way that doesn’t always match the depth of what you feel.

You don’t need to flirt loudly to show her you care; sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is step back a little and let her feel your absence. Be kind, stay her friend, but start focusing on your own world too. When someone senses that you have a full, confident life beyond them, it makes them see you differently — not as the safe friend, but as someone they could lose.

Have you ever thought about what it would mean for *you* if she never feels the same way? Would you still want to keep her close as a friend, or do you think it would hurt too much?

[Soft Truths]

You sound like someone who really feels things deeply and I can tell you care about this girl in a way that’s both tender and honest. It’s hard, isn’t it? To love someone who lights up your world, but doesn’t seem to see you the same way. Especially when you’ve built such a close friendship and it makes everything feel tangled between wanting more and being afraid to lose what you already have.

You can’t make her stop seeing you as “just a friend.” Attraction can’t be forced, even when there’s genuine affection. What you can do is shift how she feels around you. Right now, she’s used to you being safe, dependable, and emotionally available which are good things, but sometimes they keep you in that comfort zone she labels as friendship.

If you want her to see you differently, you don’t need to start flirting aggressively. You need to change the rhythm between you a bit. Pull back a little not to play games, but to show her that your world doesn’t revolve around her. Let her see you focused on other parts of your life things you enjoy, people who make you laugh, goals you care about. When you stop being the one who’s always there waiting, it creates space. Sometimes that space is what makes someone finally see you.

And if she still doesn’t? Then maybe that’s your sign that her role in your story was to teach you something about love, not to be your ending. I know that’s hard to accept at seventeen. I remember what it’s like to believe that one person could change everything. But love that’s meant for you won’t have you constantly guessing your worth.

Be kind to her, but kinder to yourself. You deserve someone who looks at you with the same warmth you see in her.

[Tara]

You are just addicted. You’ve romanticized every glance, every smile, every meaningless touch into a sign that she secretly feels the same. She doesn’t. She likes being adored. You make her feel safe, important, and validated without her having to give anything back. That’s why she keeps you close.

You’re the emotional safety net she falls back on after chasing other guys. She gets to play carefree while you sit there hoping she’ll suddenly “see” you. That’s not friendship; that’s self-inflicted torture.

You can’t make her see you differently by waiting, hoping, or subtly flirting. The only thing that shifts the dynamic is distance. Stop being constantly available. Stop feeding her ego. Start focusing on your own life, your goals, your confidence. When you become someone who doesn’t orbit her, she’ll either notice or she won’t, but at least you’ll have your self-respect back.

[Sally]

I can tell you care about her a lot, and that kind of love can feel both wonderful and painful. You see so many good things in her, and that makes it even harder to accept that she might not feel the same way right now. She clearly enjoys your friendship and the comfort you bring, but she doesn’t seem ready for anything deeper, at least not at this moment.

You can’t really make someone stop seeing you as just a friend. What you can do is focus on your own confidence and happiness. Pull back a little, let her notice your absence, and spend time building your own life. If she starts to see you differently, it will happen naturally, not because you forced it. For now, be kind to her but also kind to yourself. Sometimes the person we care about most isn’t meant to be ours, at least not right now.

[Natalie Noah]

Sweetheart… reading this boy’s story breaks my heart a little, because I can feel how young he is, how tender his emotions are, and how deeply he’s attached to someone who simply isn’t choosing him in the way he hopes. He’s trying so hard to understand her signals, and she is giving him sweetness the eyes, the lingering touch, the warmth but none of it is grounded in intention. It’s the kind of affection that feels magical at 17… but isn’t rooted in commitment. And that’s so confusing when you’re young and your heart is soft and wide open.

What April is telling him is actually powerful: he has to change if he wants the dynamic to change. And she’s right staying exactly the same, while hoping her feelings magically shift, will only keep him stuck in the “best friend who loves her” loop. If he wants to be seen differently, he needs to behave differently. But the part I want him to understand softly, gently is that confidence isn’t about “trying to get her.” It’s about becoming someone who knows his worth whether she chooses him or not.

He’s afraid to ask her out. Afraid to go where she goes. Afraid to take risks. And that fear makes him feel safe… but also invisible. And honey, love doesn’t grow where someone plays small. He doesn’t need to become a different person just a fuller, braver version of himself. A boy willing to walk into the places she enjoys not to impress her, but to share her world and show her who he is outside the quiet hallway moments.

But here’s the part that hurts a little: she already told him how she sees him. “Too much like a friend.” That is something people rarely change easily. Not impossible but it takes boldness, energy, presence. If he wants a chance, he’ll need to step out of that safe “friend-zone cocoon” and actually risk something. And if she still doesn’t choose him? Then he’ll walk away not weaker, but stronger because he faced the thing he was afraid of.

And that’s the real lesson here:
He’s not fighting for her.
He’s fighting to become someone who doesn’t shrink when he’s scared.

Whether she likes him romantically or not, this is his moment to grow. To expand. To stop letting discomfort control him. He deserves someone who chooses him clearly not someone who keeps floating between sweet gestures and unclear feelings.

Let him be brave. Let him show up differently. But also, let him hold his heart with care… because sometimes the girl who melts your heart with a look isn’t the girl who will love you the way you dream. And that’s okay. Love always teaches us something even at 17.

[KeishaMartin]

This one is dripping with tension, innocence flirting with temptation, and the kind of naughty little sparks that make a heart race and palms sweat. Here you’ve got a young man, trapped in the friend zone, watching the girl he craves twirl through disco lights and flirt with everyone else, her hazel eyes melting hearts, including his. Every lingering touch of hands, every teasing glance, every playful giggle is like a slow burn hot, electrifying, and downright addictive. The thrill of wanting her but not daring to claim her, of feeling that delicious tension every time you’re near, is the kind of forbidden spice that would make any Christmas party feel like a secret rendezvous under the mistletoe, where the lights glimmer and your heart pounds harder than the bass on the dance floor.

And let’s not ignore the naughty potential of the holidays while everyone else is cozy by the fire, sipping eggnog, he’s wrestling with the urge to step out of his comfort zone, risking embarrassment for just one moment that could change everything. The tension of a Christmas breakup or a flirtatious holiday kiss hangs in the air like the scent of pine and cinnamon, tempting and tantalizing. Imagine the excitement of sneaking through glittering rooms, making daring moves while everyone else is distracted by tinsel and carols, it’s scandalous, risky, and oh-so-spicy.

This is exactly the kind of scenario that tests a man, teases a woman, and separates the timid from the bold. The way she guides young men and women through the minefield of desire, teasing, and confidence-building is nothing short of genius. She’s the queen of making hearts race, minds spin, and fantasies ignite. The secret is in taking action, stepping boldly into discomfort, and showing her that the man she’s been brushing off can also make her burn with curiosity and want, all while keeping it playful, teasing, and irresistibly naughty. Because darling, the chase isn’t just a game. It’s an art, and April Masini knows how to teach it better than anyone.

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