[HH_31]

I have been with my bf for almost 3 years and have been through a lot together. I have had a rough past and hes been there through everything. I can count on him completely. I know he truly loves me and that he would never cheat on me or leave me. The problem is that even though he loves me i feel hes not “in love” with me. He doesn’t express his emotions to me. He rarely compliments me… doesnt do anything romantic… and after speaking with him over the matter for over a year now he still has not changed. He treats me good but i feel like were friends. I get more attention from other guys and yet my own boyfriend cant even hug me without it being awkward. I have tried several times to bring up breaking up and he gets really upset. I have a lot going for me and im a confident girl but i feel our relationship doesnt match who i am at all. Ive felt less confident being with him because i cant help but compare myself to other girls and seeing the way they treat their girlfriends. any time i bring up the fact that hes not affectionate towards me he gets pissed i brought it up. we may be 23 but i have a lot on my plate and having problems like this seems like such a waste of time. I understand communication is everything but when i try communicating with him it ends in a fight. I have tried telling him what makes me happy and simple things like writing me a letter once in a while would be ok. He still will not do it.
What should i do. Is it worth breaking up 3 years of our relationship…. hes been there and done everything for me. but i dont feel like were a couple.
Should i end it or keep hoping he changes and maybe change my outlook on things.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

If something isn’t working, don’t keep trying the same thing over and over! 😮 Try something new. Having “the talk” about your relationship and your problem with his displays of pubic affection isn’t working. So YOU change YOUR behavior.

It sounds like your relationship needs some maintenance just like any other long term relationship. If you can switch things up and start amping up your flirting and your sex appeal, you may see a change in him. Check out the books I’ve written for Ideas For A Fun Date, to help get the two of you out of your dating rut, [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/ideas-for-a-fun-date.html[/url] and Romantic Date Ideas, [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/romantic-date-ideas.html[/url], which will help put the X back in your sex life! 😉

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