Financial instability: He’s barely scraping by, paying child support, and relying on you for a car. That’s not a stable foundation for a life together, especially if you want children.
Parenting concerns: You’re noticing that his kids’ needs (like the dentist) aren’t being met. That’s a huge indicator of how he handles responsibility. You said it yourself: you want stability, and that doesn’t line up with what he’s showing.
Alcohol and boundaries: Drinking in your car, smelling of beer, bringing it into situations where it’s inappropriate. That’s not safe and shows a lack of respect for your rules.
Communication and emotional behavior: He gets defensive, hangs up on you, shifts conversations to himself, and blames you for being concerned. That’s not a partner; that’s a pattern of controlling and dismissive behavior.
Rushing things: Talking about “our apartment” and future plans after only 2.5 months, while ignoring reality that’s a warning sign of emotional instability.
Sweetheart, all of these are patterns that won’t change just because you care about him. You’ve already expressed your boundaries and needs, and he responded with anger and dismissal. That’s not healthy.
You deserve someone who is emotionally mature, responsible, reliable, and respects you and your boundaries not someone who makes you question your own sense of what’s safe and stable.
My honest advice? Step away now. Not slowly, not “let’s see if it changes” leave. Protect yourself, your future, and the stability you need while you’re finishing school. You are worth so much more than stress, excuses, and instability.
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