[alizey]

Hy , i am a 25 years old female.
Me and my ex boyfriend broke up in 2012 and now it’s 2015. He has moved on and i am still stuck , i still love him madly.

After he left me as his parents didn’t agree for our marriage, i couldn’t thought of losing him at all. So , i remained with him as a friend in the name of love.

He used to treat me as an option but i still remained with him as he used to content me with his lies althought actions were zero.

Then in Feb 2014 , i left him saying bye to him but he came back to me in Aug, 2014 with long lovy dovy messages that he will love me forever etc etc. I again accepted him but again same cycle went , he kept ignoring me and giving me bread crumbs .

Also he told me to move on , i didn’t get him because he used to send me mixed signals as on one hand he says that i should move on and on the other hand he sends me lovy dovy messages.Then time passed by , he used to treat me less than even a friend.

Well in MAy 2015 ,one of our mutual friend(me n my ex friend) she found out that he got another girl in 2014 but she is getting married this year so he is mourning for her as she kicked him out. When i heard that i got a shock that he kept cheating me.My ex also told my friend that he wasn’t involved in me much as we both had a very short time span of relationship( it was 9 months almost) and his life didn’t stop because of her (means me). Then i did text my ex that he kept lying me n kept me as a back burner. He denied and said he didn’t lied to me but yes he did hide that thing from me but he wants me to think like that.I told him not to contact me now ever as i am breaking our so called friendship too , well he said ok he won’t and told me to be happy forever. So , everything ended.

Now i am heart broken, i miss him still,he didn’t value me ever.I stalk him all the time on whatsapp , i block him and then unblock him because i have an addiction to him, he seems to be sad because of other girl and that makes me upset.He hasn’t deleted me off his facebook account yet.
He off and on kept asking me to forgive him because he somehow thinks that he is heart broken because i curse him.I told him many times that i don’t.
This is my story.So , will you please guide me how to cope up with that situation. How i can move on ? How to end his addiction ? I feel like alone as i am so depressed.
I will be waiting for youe response. Please advise me.
Thanks

[AskApril Masini]

When you’re as clear as you are about you being the one with the problem — the choice is yours. You get to move on, or you get to stay unhappy. 😳 And there’s no trick to moving on — but you have to be willing to do the work. When you decide you’d rather be happy and healthy, than depressed and stuck in the past, that’s when you’ll be able to move on.

In the meantime, my advice is to cut off from this guy altogether — social media, gossip — any contact you have with him or about him, you need to cut off. Next, you need to fill your spare time. If you don’t have a job, get one! If you have one, get a part time one for the evenings and weekends. Connect with friends and family who are not interested in him, and will support your moving forward. And volunteer for people who are in need.

In addition, you should start dating!

I know that this will all be much harder for you than it seems like it should be — but there is no short cut. You either do it, or your don’t. 😉

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[alizey]

Thanks alot for your response.
I have deleted him off from my phone and whatsapp.
I have zero contact to him now.
I don’t stalk him anymore , it’s lil bit sad as i had a habit of stalking him but i control my feeings now.
I will find a job as i am jobeless these days.

[AskApril Masini]

Finding a job is going to be a big improvement on your life! 😀

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