[Beckymann100]

I have been with my boyfriend for two years, I have two little girls and am 28, he is 24 w no kids. I have never been so madly in love with somebody and truly feel he means it when he says he loves me. We have issues from the beginning when it comes to other girls though. Been told by random people or even my own friends of stories if him making out w other girls at parties and so on. Always confront him and he denies it until I either have enough proof he can’t or give up on it. Around Xmas I had a GUY message me saying my bf had been messaging him on craigslist looking to hook up… It broke me… I confronted him (even had the pics he had sent the guy and messages ) and of course he freaks telling me he isn’t gay and it’s a set up… And even though I knew in my heart he was lying I hated seeing him so upset. The next morning I went through his phone and seen in his outbox all these replays to Craigslist adds looking “to fuck or be fucked ” so I freaked kicked him out. Well my family was coming up t that time for Xmas and I was embarrassed. He ended up apologizing and promising me he only loved me and would change. But it had changed me… I couldn’t get it out of my head. We even went to Mexico and any time I’d drink if end up freaking out about it. We came home and continued fighting cause he’d constantly like all these girls pics and I’d ask him not to saying it really hurt my feelings and made me feel really bad about my self but wouldn’t stop. Even my ex best friend who had slept w my previous TWO boyfriends and he would like her stuff after we had fought about it multiple times ( I know that sounds dumb and I’ve never been a jealous girls, but I felt like I was stalking him) but not to say when we were good we were amazing… I still loved him so much through all of this and in my eyes I feel he did love me. One day I had just had enough. We were sitting beside each other on the couch one night and he wrote woman crush everyday on Paris Hilton’s picture ( so stupid! I know it’s embarrassing but by that point I had asked him not to … Begged even and felt like shit) so I lost it , like he was sitting next to me the one he loves. So I told him to leave. Since we split we are both so destroyed. He promises he will change that I’m the best thing that ever happened to him… I’d give anything to go running back but know unless he changes for himself we will just b right back here. I have anxiety over the thought of losing him. He says if I loved him how I say I would never of left but tried to work through it with him. But how many times can I ask the most simple thing that means a lot for it to be ignored. Plus with my two daughters my oldest. Really does not like him. Nothing he’s done she’s just a big daddies girls and doesn’t like me having a bf. but it put a big wedge between us which I won’t have. He does do some amazing thing a for me and our family. Treats me amazing other then those things. I just worry I’m gonna look back and realize he was the love of my life and I shoulda fought harder…. Any advice is hugely appreciated ❤️

[AskApril Masini]

This man treated you poorly. He cheated on you and he lied to you. There is no reason for you to have him in your life, and you did the right thing by breaking up with him. 🙂

It sounds like you’re having trouble moving on — which is naturally difficult — and that’s why you’re looking in the rear view mirror. My advice is that you focus on your future. Try to surround yourself with kind, respectful, successful people. This includes best friends, community members, family members and colleagues. As a single mother, it’s especially important for you to have good people in your life, and to let go of those who aren’t. You’re setting an example for your daughters by doing so, and you’re creating a good and healthy life for yourself, as well.

Next time you date someone, choose a man who is upstanding and respectful because when you’re dating as a single parent, it’s not just about you. Your daughters are watching you and learning how they will one day date and marry. 😉 Set a good example for them, and by doing so, you’ll find a healthy, happy relationship for yourself.

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