[jamesk101]

well i met this girl 5 months ago we connected really well she told me from the beginning that she was friends with her ex and known him since they were children. she at first wouldn’t give me a chance to be her boyfriend but until recently she said yes she asked all her friends what they thought about us they all like me. i have my own place car great job and am in college well her ex just relapsed on heroin and is now at the treatment center where she works .she was hooked on heroin for a long time and is now 4 years clean she comes and stays with me on sat every week to just hangout and relax yesterday i asked how her ex was doing in the treatment and she said he is doing good i sent him an i pod so he would have music to listen to while there i befriended him cause i think i should support her and her friendship. she told me that i have nothing to worry about that she is very happy with us and has no desire to go anywhere else. remind you she has been clean for a long time he is still messing up it bothers me and hurts a little to know they are good friends. she told me that if i asked her not to talk to him she would stop communicating with him but i dont to tell her she cant talk to him or should i i trust her fully no question if she would do something or not just that there could be old stuff stirred up and she would break up with me for it what do i do can our relationship work with her ex as her friend that she has known for ever ? what should and shouldn’t i do? do i support her decisions and move forward?

[AskApril Masini]

Since you’ve only been dating for five months, I think it’s best not to make a mountain out of a molehill. If you let this go, you’ll seem confident and sure of yourself, and that can bring the two of you closer together — if you don’t, and you make a big deal about it, it can have the effect of driving them closer together, and you don’t want that! Also, with any luck, he’ll get better, leave rehab, and she won’t see him when she goes to work any more. So, keep it drama free and take the high road.

[jamesk101]

thank you i really like this girl and would give a life time of smiles to make her smile once so i thought it would be best to support her and her friendship

[AskApril Masini]

You don’t have to be too supportive, but I think being neutral is going to go a long way as opposed to being possessive and issuing ultimatums.

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