[Cory]

Remember me, i am back, i wrote like three month ago “nice guys finish last is back”. i told you my girl was acting cold and distant and you recommended to give her space, and to keep you posted. Well i am back, this is my third post 🙂
I lost her April, i gave her space, but i guess a little too late. I screwed up and lost the best thing that happened to me in years… it turns out that i was sooooo into her and our relationship i didn’t heed her warning singes and need for space and slow pace! and i mean she needs loads of space and turtle slow pace! more like, makes your average girl seem like a sprinter… i pushed her over the edge with my smothering and neediness and only realized this last night! 🙁 I’m older than her and more ready than she was i guess, and that is why i acted like this.
We have been “broken up” for over a month now April, we still hang out sometimes. When we are together we still hold hands sometimes and peck at hi’s, good bye’s and then other times in between (or she just does it because i go for it, i dont know any more). we still call each other “babe”, i see a little warmth in her eyes still, but when i ask her about if she thinks she sees us together again, she says no, or maybe in the future.
April, i really want her back, i know that i need to chill loads and I’m working on it, but how do i win her back? is it too late? Please tell me what you think is the best for me to do, I’m confused and lost I don’t know what to do next, I’m afraid to talk to her and ask her to come back and she might feel more pressured and run for the hills, but don’t wana just let it go and have some other guy come in and sweep her away from me. i don’t want to lose her for good. She’s my world! 😕

[Anonymous]

update; today we spent all day txting each other, talking about my revelation. I apologized to her about how i was acting, and explained to her everything i have been feeling and thinking… about how it was my actions, pressure and fast pace that made her pull away. How i realize now why she was being cold and distant, my insecurity with relationship, and how i thought of my needs and ignored hers in the process… the conversation was very warm and constructive, like any couple working through a problem. she shared her input, thoughts and admitted to her faults that contributed to our break up and all that good stuff…it was great! i wrapped up tonight by promising her that i intend to work through all this mess in my head , get rid of it and try to deal with underlying issues that might be causing them. she offered to help me work through it too… wonderful, at this point i was hopeful in that she is willing to come back to me shortly n was happy. i told her how much she means to me and that i need her in my life!
She proceeded to tell me how i should think of our “friendship” only now and not our getting back together, to take a day at a time and that she doesn’t see us together right now… n that bs. burst my bubble and brought back my frustration! 😐

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I get so many posts and answer so many readers that unless you post your latest comments and question onto your old post, it’s hard for me to remember your specifics. So for future, if you have a question that builds on a past question, please post your new question onto your old one so I can see the whole thread! 🙂

Based on what you’ve written here, you need to get and read my book, Date Out of Your League. You can download it at this link: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url]. It’s only $14.95 and you can read it this weekend — tonight in one sitting if you’re ambitious! Let me know what you think and what you’ve gotten out of it for your specific situation after you read it.

You’ll really benefit from this book because it will help you seduce and win over your ex-girlfriend. You need some new tools — clearly your old ones aren’t working. She’s making it very clear to you that she’s not ready for a relationship and you’ve kept misreading her cues. This book will give you lots of help, hints, tips and strategy for winning her over.

Please get the book, read it, and let me know what questions you have after that. 😀

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