[jonathan]

Hello… this is a copy of my Yahoo blog.. I hope you will read it. thank you for your
time. Jon

The Last of the Nice Guys

[Anonymous]

I normally don’t even glance at the
articles printed throughout the internet; but
after the eye catching title “Why nice Guys
Finish Last”, i had to send a note of thanks.

I recently lost not only a wonderful woman in a
relationship, but we were long time friends before
that. Not to use this as an excuse, both of us had
very different and difficult issues in our
respective lives that required major energy,
placing priority over growing our relationship.
How we became involved are the things one would
read in a novel; however, over time, she had a
change of heart. While I was very upset and
confused by it all, your article brought piercing
perspective to why things went wrong.
I write this feeling both embarrassed and humbled
by sharing this with you; but in a bizarre way, a
sense of understanding has finally been brought to
this personal and painful of situations. I just
wanted to thank you for writing this article and
helping me see something I needed to see. All the
best with your endeavours, jd

[Ask April Masini]

I think you missed the point of the column Jonathan. Perhaps you should read it again? Here’s the link:

I am in no way suggesting that men behave badly or mistreat women. Equally, I am not in support of “bad boys” nor am I encouraging “nice guys” to act like “bad boys”. My goal was, specifically, to point out human nature and to explain (to nice guys) why some women feel, think and behave the way they do… if something (or someone) is too easy to get, it is viewed as less valuable than something (or someone) that is harder to get… If someone is too eager and too available they are perceived as needy or desperate.

And, for the sake of argument, the article could be reversed… The same truths (like them or not) apply to women too.

[dustin]

That is just one bitch’s opinion. Bitches and jerks deserve each other.

[glam0927]

I always find this to be an interesting topic… So I felt compelled to reply to this one. This concept- “nice guys finish last” happens to be just one of the many things that don’t always make perfect sense and for some people it feels downright backwards. You’re taught from birth to do good to others and to treat people the way you want to be treated. So why on Earth are women more attracted to men who don’t always play nice?! Well, it’s called human nature. Humans (notice I say Humans, not women… it absolutely goes both ways) get thrill from hunt and challenge. When something is given to you too easy- A) The value is diminished B) The excitement,passion if you will is just not there. Men are just as thrill thirsty as women are. In fact you can pose the same question for men.. “Why do men love Bitches?!” As complex as you would think the answer to that question might be,it’s actually very simple. Both men and women seek a partner that makes them feel alive, vibrant..passion! Nothing is more alive than a little bit of a challenge.

However I would like to clarify, when we say nice guy this does not mean that if you don’t have a criminal record of some sort or beat up on women that you just won’t cut it! To me the difference is confidence. A man who knows his self-worth, knows what he wants and how to get it. He won’t get walked on by a women because he knows what he has to offer and that he could be with a women who has the same offer.

I’d bet you look for some of the same qualites in a woman…

Just my 2cents..

[debra18]

Wow.. nice blog article.. I do believe that nice are boring! They are over confident with themselves, but you speak with them, they are so boring, non-sense.. All they’ve got is the looks!lols..

[Ask April Masini]

Happy New Year! Let me know how things are going for you.

[PassionSeeker]

Jon your reflection in The Last of the Nice Guys captures something deeply human: that mix of pain, gratitude, and realization that often comes after love ends. You write with honesty not bitterness and that gives your story real weight. Losing both a friend and a partner is devastating, but what stands out is how you turned heartbreak into understanding rather than resentment. That takes strength.

What April and others pointed out is worth holding onto being a “nice guy” isn’t what makes relationships fail. It’s when kindness slips into over-availability or self-sacrifice that the balance gets lost. Real connection requires confidence knowing your worth and not needing to chase validation.

You didn’t lose because you were kind; you lost because life and timing didn’t align. What you gained, though, is clarity and that’s something most people never find. Keep your compassion, but pair it with boundaries and pride. That’s how “nice guys” stop finishing last by realizing they were never behind to begin with.

[Marcus king]

Calling yourself “the last of the nice guys” tells me you’re tired. Not just of dating but of feeling like you keep showing up with good intentions and getting overlooked, used, or taken for granted.

But listen being a good man is not the problem.
Being a good man with no boundaries is.

A lot of “nice guys” do good things hoping love will come back to them because of it.
But real attraction doesn’t work like a reward system.

You don’t need to become a jerk.
You don’t need to stop caring.
You just need to stop giving your loyalty where it isn’t earned.

Be kind but don’t be available to everyone.
Be respectful but don’t chase someone who’s showing you confusion.
Be loving but only when someone shows up with the same energy.

You’re not the last of anything.
You’re just someone who needs to start valuing himself as much as he values others.

The right woman doesn’t make you prove you’re good enough.
She recognizes it and meets you there.

[Val Unfiltered💋]

aw babe… that’s actually kinda beautiful but sometimes heartbreak just needs a reason that clicks, even if it hurts. you sound like one of the rare ones who actually feels instead of blaming. respect for that. but babe don’t wear “nice guy” like it’s a scar. being kind isn’t what made her leave. it’s just that timing and energy don’t always sync the way we want. take the lesson, keep the softness. the right person won’t make you finish last cause they’ll run beside you. 💫

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