[Sashany]

Hello,
I am 28 y/o women, i knew a guy 42 y/o from website for language exchange. We used to text and calls for about 7 or 8 m. He lives in west coast of us and i live in the east side. Finally we met in different city than we lived at for 3 days. We spent almost all 3 days together except sleep time. After that we were texting from time to time then we go back to texting everyday (on and off) but never phone call. He kept asking me to visit him at his city and place. I am wondering what makes him to keep texting and asking me to visit him tho it has been more than 7 m since we met. And we live hundreds of miles away from each other. Should i worry about that?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

So, you’re 28 and he’s 42. You’re single and he’s divorced and single. You live on opposite coasts and have only had a 3 day meet up — seven months ago — during the year you’ve had this long distance relationship. What you have to understand is that if a 42 year old guy wants to see you, he will. He’ll fly out to date you. He’ll fly you in to date him. He’ll send flowers and presents and he’ll let you know what his intentions are. By not doing any of these things, he’s letting you know that he likes having you around, but he’s not investing in the relationship. You have to understand as well, that because dating is competitive, he’s probably dating other women as well as keeping you around — because there is very little downside for him.

So, decide what YOU want. 😉 If you want to date someone regularly and have a commitment that will lead to a long term relationship in the same city and even the same house, this isn’t your guy. If you’re bored and lonely, then this contact will probably offset your discomfort — until you realize it’s not going anywhere. In general, if a guy you meet online hasn’t asked you out for an in person date by the three month since meeting mark, chances are, he’s not interested in a traditional relationship. I think that’s what’s going on here.

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