Hi
My husband and I have been separated a year and I have been trying to get back together since with going round for coffee and days out etc. He said he wanted space but I kept ringing to try. I miss him so much. He has now found someone else with 3 children and was confused about her or me. He met her in July but has not started to see her regularly until he told me 3 weeks ago. He now says he wants space to see whether he will miss me. I am worried he will just get closer to me. he says he is happy and he gets on with her kids and they get on with him. Our kids are grown up and we have been married for 22 years. I cant imagine him wanting to go back to having small kids in his life. I had an affair 8 years ago and he has said he wants to see if he can understand why I did it. He has said he is happy. My friend says it is early days and he isnt the type to put up with kids and he is just having fun. He even says things like doesnt know what he is doing for Christmas and he hasn’t been invited to my sisters. He does have strong feelings for me and is almost saying if I give him space he will come back but I am afraid he will just say he is happy.
I dont know what to do. I feel if i give him space I am just letting him get heavier into the new girlfriend.
I miss him so much. It is like he has been stubborn for a year and everything I have suggested to get our relationship back together he has rejected. He held my hand two weeks go when he told me about her and said he would tell her he needed space. Then he spent the weekend with her and he was anti me again.
I feel do I get myself independant and attractive will that help?? but then I feel insecure again.
Thanks for your help xx
